How long you should wait before you contact your ex to get back together

In 2012, he joined Juventus and after enjoying a winning streak non-stop for 4 years and cementing his reputation, Manchester United wanted him back. But like the ex that wants you when you are doing fine without them, they have again rejected him in the recent transfer window.

Unfortunately, when it is your heart on the line it can be tricky to know when to get back with an ex. Below the three months threshold is commonly regarded as too soon because, during this time you are vulnerable to escape the breakup pain and bruise your mental health, under the guise of wanting your ex back.

If the relationship ended for reconcilable differences, here's how you know you're ready. When,

You don't feel internal pressure to get right back into the throes of texting, dinners, intimacy and most importantly to label what you are to each other.

You know what you want and are not afraid to be open or honest. According to Orbuch, feeling comfortable about your needs, expectations and the qualities you need in a partner gives a sense of confidence to resolve past misunderstandings.

Your personal goals, career goals, mental and physical health goals and other relationships currently in your life are aligned for a healthy lifestyle.

When you are ready to know who your former partner has become in the period you have been separated and share what you did when you were apart, but also reconcile who you know them as, according to Dr. Chloe Carmichael, PhD, a clinical psychologist.

When you know why you want to get back together and it has everything to do with the ex, especially if you have positive feelings about pursuing a healthy relationship with them.

When you can identify major issues you did not notice while you were together.

When you are ready to address old issues that led to fights and arguments, and are willing to address them openly and rebuild trust.

When you accept that not everyone will support your decision, and you are ready to forgive any past misdeeds.

Fortunately, according to Carmichael, by the time you reach this state of being you are free to either pursue your ex, stay friends or start over with someone new.