Oral should always be on the menu if you’re doing it right. And having a willing partner is such a wonderful thing. Here's how to improve your partner’s oral sex skills so you can have the best orgasms of your life.

This may mean doing some reading yourself. The clitoris is the center of female pleasure. For many of us, oral sex is far more pleasurable and orgasmic than other forms of sexual play. Attention to the clitoral glans is essential in orgasm for the vast majority of women, and yet we promote intercourse and vaginal orgasm as the best form of orgasm. It makes literally no sense, and it’s a damaging myth.

Have a conversation and be straightforward. It may be that there are just a few tweaks needed to their approach, or perhaps your partner doesn’t seem to know where the clitoris is located. Both way, you must be open about your needs. If you do not ask and give direction, you will wind up dealing with this for the rest of your life.

You don’t want to overwhelm your partner. Have them stick to one consistent movement that you love. You can always build on the routine later. If they are behind in their skills, they likely feel vulnerable already. Giving them something concrete things to work on will do wonders. If you overwhelm with too many movements at once, you could wind up with the same sloppy oral from before. Build up their skills, and then ask for more.

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