Are relationship breaks good?

Why do you want to go on a break?

Let's start from there.

Is it just an excuse for a breakup? If it is, then it's best to go straight to the point - No need to prolong the inevitable.

However, if you feel that some time apart would do you good, then go for it. But have it in mind that there's a right and wrong way to go about it.

And that's what this article is about - to show you the healthy way to go on a break.

1. Discuss why you're taking the break

It's almost impossible to just wake up one day and out of the blues say "babe I need a break." Something must have triggered it. 

So before you take the break, discuss why you're taking that break. Is it because you don't feel loved enough? Is it because of infidelity? Is it because you want to find yourself? 

What's the reason, let it be known. That way, you and your significant other can know what to work on.

2. Define the break

What does a break mean to you? Does it mean you'd cut off all communication with your partner? Or can you call each other once a day? 

Does it mean you can see other potential suitors? Does it mean you can have sex with other people?

You and your partner need to set the terms, define the boundaries and respect them. You don't want to come back after the break and hear your partner slept with your best friend.

3. Set a time limit

You can't go on break forever. Sooner or later you'd need to come back and make a decision. So before you go on the break, discuss with your partner and set a limit. 

Decide when the break will end. Is it After two weeks? 3 weeks? A month? 

Set a limit and after the break, reassess the relationship with your partner. Discuss what you've learnt, decide if you want to continue the relationship and then map out the way forward.

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Funmi is a Writer, Thinker and Marketing buff. Like Mark Manson, he hopes to give life advice that doesn't suck. 

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