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Strange But True Cheating can be beneficial to your relationship, expert says

A relationship expert explains how cheating could make your relationship better and healthier.

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5 classic excuses Nigerian men give for cheating


Cheating is wrong but it could be what helps to grow a relationship, according a love therapist.

Esther Perel, a US based sex and relationship therapist says that cheating helps relationships in a way because it makes people take stock of their marriage.

Of course what we've always known cheating to cause is a creation of doubts and pulling apart of whatever structure the relationship has been built on.

Once a partner cheats, it becomes hard to trust again or to form a connection as strong as what you had before their eyes strayed, even if it was one time.

Holding in your feelings and failing to express them might be just as unhealthy for your relationship as infidelity. play Cheating roughly shakes up the foundation of your relationship, puts everything into question, and most times there are never answers good enough. (Avopix)

However in a stark contrast to everything we seemingly know about cheating, Esther Perel claims cheating could make your relationship stronger and better.

“Many affairs are break-ups, but some affairs are make-ups,”  Perel tells The Guardian UK.

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The therapist is against infidelity and unfaithfulness among partners but she believes that when it does happen, divorce shouldn’t be the only option. Reconciliation, a chance to patch things up, move on from that occurrence should be on the cards.

“I think people should be able to determine for themselves the choices that they will make and the consequences thereof,” she says.

play Instead of blocking your partner's pleas for talks when they default on their exclusivity vows, it might be better to hear them out with a view to resolution and reconciliation. (Shutterstock)

“To just push people to [breakups] and to think that divorce is always the better solution when it dissolves all the family bonds… Entire lives are intertwined with a marriage.”

Perel insists that cheating could help improve a relationship because it makes couples deal with their problems.

“Sometimes the relationship that comes out is stronger, and more honest and deeper than the one that existed before because people finally step up.”

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