Twitter user trends for implying her ex was a destiny stopper

Temi Iwalaiye 16:36 - 08 February 2022

Couples have to handle their partners not being in the mood

A woman wrote a thread on Twitter about how she met a young man at the wrong time.

According to Twitter user, Adeola Olubamiji, both of them were students and cleaners in Finland. They were in love and he even asked to marry her.

All was well until she decided to do her PHD in Canada and went overseas, although they dated long distance for a while she broke it off with him.

One of the hardest decision I have had to make is to turn down a LOVE that came at the WRONG TIME.

I met a guy back in Finland. We were both students by day and cleaners by night. But he was madly in love with me. You could tell him anything about me and he would still love me
— Dr. Addy Olubamiji (@DrOlubamiji) February 6, 2022

If she had stopped there then no one would have had any issues with what she said. She went further to make some prayers for single women and imply that he was a ‘destiny stopper’ and that made the people of Twitter really upset.

They attacked her saying the only reason she didn’t date him or marry him was because he didn’t have money.

In summary:
- You never loved your Finland guy but dated him cos you needed a company.
- It was all about survival for you.
- You realized he’s a good man when you couldn’t get a man.
- If you stayed in Finland, you’ld still have left him someday.
- It wasn’t about your PhD https://t.co/KY5RmMfKEU
— Apostle Godson (@apostle_godson) February 7, 2022

They accused her of hypergamy which is basically choosing a mate based on superior education or finances.

All Dr Adeola is saying is that Finland guy proposed to her because of her PhD.

It's still the same hypergamy, she rejected the proposal because she believes that she's above him.

Sponsored PhD by the way.😎
— Nwaada Ọlụchi (@Ada_di_ora_mma) February 7, 2022

There was really nothing to learn in the story where the lady left her fiancé in Finland to Canada for a PhD, indeed it should be titled “Abandonment story”

There’s nothing inspiring about it because was curated to mock the ex & get a feel good factor from public validation. 1/7
— 🩺 🔬 (@DunswortGabriel) February 7, 2022

In as much as you can break up with someone who doesn’t align with your goals or plans, they are not destiny stoppers, you both had a good run until it ended.

Just some months ago, we advised a young lady to forget marriage and travel out and that advice is still valid in this case.

Some people mentioned that he could have moved to Canada easily from Finland, but what if he never wanted to live in Canada?

At the end of the day, people should be free to leave any relationship that doesn’t tally with their life goals but talking negatively about an ex is not a good look.