This is how to ghost on a guy without any guilt

Whenever you suddenly up and leave a situation or a budding situation without a word or explanation, you have ghosted on the other person.

When people ghost most times, they do so without forewarning. No explanation, no warning, no closure, they just leave. Ghosting is known as one of the behaviours that should have no place when two adults are doing relationships.

Both for the dumper and the dumped, ghosting can be a frustrating, inconsiderate, annoying and energy-sapping affair. Considering the amount of emotional toll it has on people and the confusion it creates, ghosting is many times discouraged and people have always been advised to seek better ways of ending relationships than just pulling the plug without so much as a word.

As bad as ghosting may be, however it could be the exact thing you need sometimes to preserve your positive energy and good peace of mind.

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Ghosting is not always bad

Wordlessly leaving a situation that no longer pleases or satisfies you is acceptable sometimes. When you have been with a man or woman or when you are shaping up to get into a relationship with them and they begin to show signs of being irresponsible lovers, it may be very wise to get out of as fast as you can… while you still can.

According to American relationships commentator and self love ambassador, Derrick Jackson [@derrickjaxn] on Instagram, when someone refuses to meet you halfway, when they bring to the table something far too little than you are willing to take, it’s just sensible to leave. And Derrick says this type of ‘ghosting’ is best known as pulling back.

It’s not ghosting per se, but it bears resemblance to the concept in the sense that you fall back from an ongoing situation you have with someone. The difference here is that while ghosting is usually unprovoked and often without a reasonable cause, falling back is more logical, and is more a matter of self respect than being inconsiderate.

Falling back is what you do as a result of someone “half assing you,”  and giving you way less than you feel you deserve.

If you’ve demanded better from someone you’re with and they couldn’t be bothered to up their game, then ‘ghosting’ on them can never be a bad thing. And you should never make yourself feel bad for doing what’s best for you.______________

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