Of what use is getting married?

Yes, you read that right. I am a young woman in my mid-twenties and I think I can safely say that marriage is way overrated, there is nothing so tangible about getting married anymore. Before you crucify me, I will lay it all out for you to understand why I have posed such a question.

In the days of our handsome fathers and beautiful mothers, marriage was an event that brought a great feeling with it. The bride and groom knew back then that marriage was a big deal, not like what it is now. It is more of less like something that is just a piece of paper signed by witnesses. Marriage to our parents meant that they were going to go it together, no matter what may arise. It meant that they were going to be faithful with each other, through thick or thin.

Now, the rate at which marriages fail these days is honestly overwhelming, do not even buy me with the, ‘May God give us our own husband/wife’. Even some of the marriages where the couple were so right for each other end in divorce. So what really am I getting at? Should people just bear whatever pain a relationship may be giving them and later cover it up with marriage?

Ever been a child who had seen some very funny incidents with married people, I had to do a rethink. Would I have to go through all of that? Would I trust my husband so much that he would not misbehave? Would my matrimonial home not break in the course of marriage? I still ponder on these questions till date.

I know some male friends my age group who got married at an early age and within the space of a year, they are already back to cheating on their innocent wives. What then is the use of getting married to someone you call the love of your life, your best friend, your soulmate? Is that all there now is to ‘building a future together’?

Marriage is not something you suddenly lose interest in, decide to start an extramarital affair, or just up and leave. To me, I say that is a very foolish thing to do. While courtship was all rosy and sweet, was the future left out of the plan in respect to, ‘for better for worse’?

Is marriage still worth it in the end?

This is where the issue of decision sets in. Of what use is marriage when after 10-15 years, one party starts to lose intimacy? Of what use is marriage when one party suddenly decides to cheat. Why bring pain into the plan after exchanging vows in the presence of Creator?

I would just like people to share their views on marriage in this era. I want to know what people feel about this very sensitive topic because I know that I am not the only one who keeps thinking about it. I would like to go through the minds of other people out there.

Article by Adebusuyi Olajire

ADEBUSUYI, Olajiire is a student of English and in final year of college. A budding writer still sharpening her skills on anything related to writing. She’s also very interested in photography and things of the art. Whenever she’s not brainstorming or buried in school work, you can find her on Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat by the handle, @jiiresuyi. You can also visit her website,