Dear anonymous,

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. In fact, about 70% of women don’t orgasm during intercourse without direct clitoral stimulation.

So if you can’t have orgasms with intercourse, you’re normal. Sometimes women get upset because their partners say, 'My last lover could have orgasms, so there must be something wrong with you.' Make him know that it’s perfectly ok for one of you to lend a hand.

Touching your clitoris during sex really ups the chances that you’ll have an orgasm.

If you’ve never experienced an orgasm – and about 10% of women haven't – consider investing in lubricants and experiment alone. Don’t get discouraged if there are no immediate fireworks.

The first time, it might take an hour of stimulation to produce an orgasm; it might also take many tries to get comfortable with the feelings of strong arousal.