She has a man & her ex wants her back but she says she wants to be with me

Dear Bukky,

Good day. Please I met this girl. She has a boyfriend and she told me that her first boyfriend before this guy is still wooing her. But she doesn't like that guy. She says she likes me and that I should not go.

I am confused because we are now three. What should I do to avoid being the guy on the side. I don't want to be used?___________

Dear reader,

I think this is one you should avoid. And this is for very obvious reasons – if she has an ongoing relationship, then you have no business getting close. If she really likes you and dislikes the other man as she says, let her break up with him and when she’s surely single again, you can think of getting into a relationship with her.

Even at that, you should still be careful. If she remorselessly dumps some guy for you, she’ll unceremoniously leave you when she finds someone marginally better than you.

With two other men in the picture, I think it is better to sit this one out. If she really wants you, she’ll clear everyone out of the picture for your sake. Until that happens, don’t push it. Don’t force it._____________

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