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Ladies, here are 5 reasons sleeping with your ex is a bad idea

You cannot deceive yourself forever and sooner or later there will come a moment when you will have to face reality.

Those for whom physical and emotional closeness are linked may be hurt again [iStock]

Ending a relationship is often a very stressful experience, especially when one of the parties was more involved.

Various thoughts then appear, including those to feel better at any cost. So it happens that former partners end up in bed with each other. However, this is a very bad idea for healing a broken heart.

Being able to reconnect with your former partner may seem like a good way to soothe the pain and loneliness of a breakup, but most often it doesn't work that way.

Although it brings temporary relief and a sense of closeness, it may ultimately have unpleasant consequences for a person who has not yet coped with the emotions after the breakup.

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This attempt to fill a void or simply meet physical needs is not good for emotional security. There are several arguments that make you think about it even more than twice.

By sleeping with your ex, you can raise false hopes that the couple will get back together. However, this does not always happen and after the fact, the more involved party feels cheated and exploited. As a consequence, there is a feeling of enormous regret, disappointment, repeated loss and loneliness. You have to experience everything all over again, and sometimes these emotions grow and it is difficult to deal with them.

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This situation can be compared to removing a plaster from a healing wound. If you do it all at once, it hurts for a short time. Breaking up in installments is always less pleasant and takes time. This also happens with sleeping with an ex, when something that should end in a final breakup is dragged into meetings that sometimes last for months, which lead to nothing. It's a waste of time. Only giving up closeness allows you to close this stage and move on in search of happiness.

Sleeping with your ex always carries the risk that he is having fun at your expense. You have to take into account the possibility that he decides to do it only for his convenience and pleasure, not wanting any obligations. And since there is no question of a relationship, it is not at all certain whether he is not also sleeping with other women at the same time. As a result, one person will fall asleep peacefully afterward without remorse, while the other will come back to himself full of doubts.

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This situation leads to emotional exhaustion in the long run. Many people lie to themselves that it's only about sex, when what they really want is closeness and time spent with their ex. Unfortunately, you cannot deceive yourself forever and sooner or later there will come a moment when you will have to face reality.

Sleeping with your ex-partner and maintaining your relationship may prevent you from establishing healthy relationships with other people. Here it is necessary to cut yourself off from your ex in order to fully engage in a new acquaintance.

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Entering into an intimate relationship with your ex-partner can be a bad idea. Of course, both parties may only want pleasure, and in this case there will be no drama. However, in such a situation, those for whom physical and emotional closeness are linked may be hurt again.

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This article was originally published on Onet Woman.

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