What to do when your partner and your friends don’t like each other

If you are in a relationship and you have friends, ideally, it would gladden your heart if your friends and your partner get along well. Civil and courteous to each other, at least.

But then what happens when you would love for them to be cool with each other but it’s just not happening? What do you do when your partner and your friends can’t see eyeball to eyeball on anything?

When your partner who does not like your friends

You have to ask yourself why could this my partner be really against these friends of mine? Also ask him or her to give you reasons why they do not like your friends.

If he or she gives reasons that are logical and reasonable, you may see reason why it’s better to not force the friendship. The very least you can ask for is that your partner stays civil to them whenever the need arises because your friends and members of your innermost circle will likely be in your life and will share moments with you that your partner can’t possibly deny them access to. An example is when you gain a promotion at work and you throw a party, or maybe a launch of your brand, etc.

Friendshps and relationships - how to keep a balance. [Credit: PSiloveyou] Friends [Credit: PSiloveyou] Pulse Nigeria

If your partner asks you to leave your friends

In the case, you should really think long and hard before making a decision. What could possibly be the reason why this man or woman would want you to leave all the people you’ve been friends with even before they came into the picture.

Particularly when your friendships are healthy and very productive and your partner just seeks to cut it all of… you should question that partner’s self-esteem and of course their intentions.

Isolation is also a tactic used by abusers. You may be better served leaving that partner altogether especially if you observe a pattern that tries to take people out of your life for no justifiable reason.

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When it is your friends that do not like your partner

Your friends are important to you because whether you are in a relationship or not, they are there for you. They provide a support system, a backbone, your inner circle with whom you share many important moments and several memories, too. Your friends mean so much to you.

Friends often spot bad partners before you. It may be wise to not discard their opinions without adequate thought. [Credit: RD] Friendship [Credit: RD] Pulse Nigeria

Obviously your partner is also ideally very important to you. People hold their partners dearer even if they have not known them for as long as they , and rightly so.

But then if your closest friend or friends do not like your partner and have refused to be friends with him or her despite all your attempts, again you would have to ask and ponder on reasons why this is possible.

Do they exhibit genuine traits that make them unlikable? Or your friends are just being unfriendly for silly reasons?

What's most important is for your partner and you to always have a beautiful relationship. Other things are not so compulsory so no need to force friendships that no one wants anyway. [Credit: Morsa/Images Getty] Couple in love with each other [Credit: Morsa/Images Getty] Pulse Nigeria

Is there really need for your friend[s] and partner to be friends?

Because you care about both of them and your life will always have their presence, it is only normal that you would hope for them to be friends and that they will spare for each other the kind of affection you have for each of them.

However, they really do not have to be friends. You don’t have to blend everyone into one huge group of friends if for some reason they just can’t get along or simply refuse to do so. You should never feel under any undue obligation to force a friendship between them.

So far they can work a mutual respect for each other at all times when social situations warrant it, then it should be all good.