Living with a depressed partner who is often unhappy, critical and negative isn't easy, and it may also be hard to persuade the individual to get help.
Depression varies tremendously in severity, but it has many behavioral impacts that can profoundly affect all significant relationships. Many factors can contribute to one's depression, most especially when he is in a low place in his life.
Depression results from shifts in brain chemistry that influence mood, thoughts, sex drive, sleep, appetite, and energy levels. All factors that could affect a marriage, as well as disrupt home and family life.
So what do you do when your partner or husband won’t talk to you but grumble, complain and mope around the house? Here's how to deal with a depressed partner.
1. Find the root of the problem
This is the first step to solving the problem. You have to know what the problem is to solve it. Is it the person's job? Earnings? Or even you and the family? A problem shared is a problem solved. And in a case where he doesn’t talk, do some digging, but not snooping and getting into the partner's business. Just gather enough information that would help in solving the problem.
2. Identify what you each can handle and stick to it
Supporting a significant other through a hard time is always going to be stressful. That doesn’t mean it’s not worth it, but it can be a danger to your well-being. You can’t help your partner if you’re too overwhelmed to function. When you’re helping your partner, be sure to give yourself some clear boundaries on what you can and cannot offer them. Getting a therapist for your partner is advised.
3. Seek help together
Support goes a long way in helping your spouse. Seek help together, whether it is a counselor you see or a professional therapist, a spiritual counselor or help from family members. You need to be by your partner's side so the individual doesn't go through the journey alone.
4. Demonstrate your love
Depression can make a person feel like a burden and unworthy of love and support. Proactively counteract those thoughts by telling and showing your partner that you love them. Let them know that you understand that depression is affecting their thoughts, feelings, and behavior and that you (still) love them. Reassure them that you are here to support them in their journey to get better.
5. Do family activities together
You can take him and the kids out, do something fun as you used to you when dating. Getting him distracted will help the recuperation process. He needs to feel needed and useful again, to know that there are people counting on him. You are the one who can best help your husband because you know him best.