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Must you like your mother-in-law to have a great marriage?

Can you have a great marriage without being cool with your mother-in-law?

Must you like your mother-in-law to have a great marriage? [Credit : ParentToolKit]

We took the liberty of examining both sides of the coin below:

Many women often get this wrong, but it is both unfair and unwise to approach a relationship with your mother-in-law from a place of resentment and rivalry without even meeting her yet!

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When you do this, you take away the potential to begin on a good note with her and that could taint your relationship forever. You should even count yourself fortunate if that does not end your relationship with her son.

Some mothers-in-law are really great people who do not fit the mould of the bad mothers-in-law that is often painted in the media.

If you come with an open mind and she turns out to be a terrible person, then you can hold your head high for having tried. It is not your fault that she is unlovable.

If, on the other hand, she's a nice person, then it'll be easy to love her and you should not withdraw from creating a bond with such person as that would be immensely favourable for you!

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Some other mothers-in-law are not that nice. Some of them are judgmental, aloof and unfair in their assessment of the woman their son wishes to marry.

If this is the kind of woman your man's mum turns out to be, it will be a little difficult to love her as she'll frustrate every or most of the attempts you make and it's OK to not kill yourself trying to love her.

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However, you cannot disrespect her. Never ever.

Being an unfair human does not change her position as your spouse's mother and even if it's impossible to love her, she forever deserves nothing but respect and anything short of that at anytime may have far-reaching consequences on your relationship with her son.

Having said that, men owe the duty of protecting their wives and girlfriends from their mums' outrageous standards and demands.

Since they cannot deny their mums because of a woman, if that woman is important, they'll have to teach their mums to respect the other important woman in their lives.

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Also it goes without saying that your man owes your parents the same level of respect you bestow on his parents.

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