If these bad habits are ruining the good thing you already have going, it is advisable to break away from them
No relationship was made in heaven but there are certain things couples need to do away with if they want their relationships to thrive.
If these bad habits are ruining the good thing you already have going, it is advisable to break away from them.
Vanessa Salles of All Women Stalk lists 7 things that could kill your relationship:
Spying: Communication is key but so is trust. In a #relationship, you should be able to have faith in your s/o and know that he loves you and wouldn't stray. This means you shouldn't be snooping through his phone whenever you see it lying around. Trust him in every aspect because if you do, you'll never feel the urge to spy on him. Trust me ladies, spying/snooping on your #man never leads to anything good.
Making comparisons: Whether it's to your ex-boyfriend or to the hunky man in the new Nicholas Sparks movie, stop comparing your man to others. You should be able to accept the way he is, flaws and all. What makes him different from every other #man should be what makes you love him! I know, I know, sometimes we all make comparisons without even knowing that we're doing it but that just means you really have to put effort into focusing only on the good!
Losing your self-identity: Being in a #relationship is great but don't forget about yourself. Make sure you are still you! It's important to have your own hobbies and your own friends. Thinking that you are not complete without the presence of somebody else is not healthy. Remember, you are yours before you ever anybody else's. It's okay to love someone, just don't lose yourself in the process.
Lying: This should be obvious but I'll include it anyways. A lot of people try to justify their "little white lies" by claiming that it isn't really hurting anybody. However, even little white lies can snowball into something bigger. Once you feel comfortable telling your loved one a small lie, you might start to feel comfortable telling bigger ones. That's not a good habit to have! Work on being honest with each other.
Holding a grudge: Relationships are about give and take. It's never easy all the #time and that's why it's a two-way street that requires effort on both ends. It's important to realize that neither of you are perfect. When one of you does something wrong, talk through it and learn to forgive. There's no point in living life being angry about something that cannot be changed now.
Keeping score: This habit goes hand in hand with the previous one. Relationships should not be about keeping score! Arguments happen but there shouldn't be a "winner" or a "loser". None of you should feel like you're in that type of situation; if you learn to talk things out, you'll both be satisfied with the outcome. It can cause unnecessary tension.
Taking your partner for granted: It's so easy to take the ones we love for granted. We don't say "I love you" as often as we should because we already assume that they know that. Don't continue to make that mistake! Let the person you love just how much you love them while they're around to hear you. Showing gratitude and paying attention that person will only make your relationship stronger.