Readers want Nduka to keep talking to his father

isaac dachen

February 17, 2017 10:30 AM

45% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters believe Nduka should keep talking to his father so that he could change his mind and give his blessing on his marriage.

A sad black man

His father has even threatened to disown him and threaten to cut him off his inheritance if he goes ahead to marry her.

Nduka is really confused and wonders why his fiancee should suffer over a stigma that was placed on her forefathers.

Read his story here.

"My name is Nduka, a 38-year-old businessman living in Lagos though I am from the eastern part of the country.

My father is truncating my joy by insisting I must not marry the woman I love because she is from a community branded as outcasts or like they call it in my place, the 'Osu Caste'.

It is quite embarrassing and very painful that no one thinks about my happiness as all they worry about is what people will say and the fact that our family will be ostracized.

I met Oluchi in Lagos where she works as a nurse two years ago and I must say that since she came into my life, I have known nothing but peace, joy, and love.

Oluchi loves and care about me so much and I had promised her that only death can separate us but my parents, especially my father who is a titled man and a member of the traditional ruler's council says he would not only disown me but make sure I am prevented from entering our family house or have a share of the family inheritance.

Other members of my family too are in support of his stand and every day, I am harassed by them with many calling me derogatory names just because I insist on getting married to someone I love.

I have tried to let my father know that in this age and time, the outcast system should have been thrown away and discarded but he is not ready to listen to me.

My problem is not about not getting my inheritance, after all, I have my business which is thriving well but what I dread is not getting my family's blessings in my marriage because as an African, I know how important this is.

Should I go ahead and marry Oluchi and damn any consequence or let her go no matter how painful this might be?

Nduka."

The teaser for the day was:

What do you think Nduka should do in this situation?

How Nigeria voted:

He should dare his family and marry Oluchi - 25%

He should not disobey his parents because they know better than he does - 24%

He should let Oluchi go so that he would not incur the wrath of his family - 6%

He should keep talking to his father to have a change of mind - 45%

How would you vote on this issue?

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