For Women: 3 things no one tells you about sex before you start dating

Ayoola Adetayo 12:02 - 20 February 2019

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Even if you have dated people, it is still not too late to learn about these things.

Relationships and sex go hand in hand almost all the time.

It is pointless to live in denial of the reality that most relationships are sexual in operation as opposed to the ones wherein celibacy is a thing.

Having said that, foreknowledge of sex, in theory, at least, becomes really important for anyone who intends to get into a relationship. And in our society where parents and other agents of socialisation find it difficult to talk about sex, a problem of sorts is created.

People go into relationships having vague ideas of sex, illusions about it and sometimes unfounded beliefs about how the whole thing goes. Even some people who have hopped in and out of a number of relationships still have warped, distorted ideas of how sex should be.

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It's easy to be ignorant about sex and its underpinnings in a society like ours. [Credit: Black Enterprise]

So here are few things you should have known before dating anyone at all. And even if you have dated people, it is still not too late to learn about these things

1. Sex is not a gift

Sex is not a reward for a man's good behaviour. It is not a valentine's day gift. It is also not a present.

It is something you want to do, a mutual feeling between you and your partner. Treat it like this always.

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2. It doesn't diminish your worth

The number of people you have had sex with is not a determinant of your worth or intelligence and even value.

You should not attach your self worth to that. Any man who tries to make you feel less of a person for having a ravenous sexual appetite or a history of enjoying it does not know what he's saying and isn't good for you.

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It's actually OK to initiate sex. [Credit Sohbethattixx]

3. It's OK to for women to ask for sex

Women have sexual urges, too, and in a situation where you wish to satisfy that urge and explore your sexuality, it is OK to ask your partner for it. If your partner acts weird about it, it is his fault for being archaic and closeminded, not yours.

Just as men can be in the mood for sex and initiate it with their partners, so is it OK for women to initiate, too. It does not mean you are loose or a prostitute. Not at all.