How do you know a guy truly loves you?

Dear Bukky,

Hello, how do you know your man really loves you when he says to you that he loves you?

Mind you, you do things together with this guy and he wants to know everything you do especially financially.______________

It's OK to be doubtful sometimes, particularly at the early days of a relationship when what is true and what is not aren't so far from each other.

However, what is more important than the doubts is the growth you experience beyond that level over time. After a while, you become sure of a partner's love and affection to a large extent. And this is done especially by observing their actions and what they do, rather than an attention fixed on what they say.

Word of mouth is a good way to express love but it needs to be proven with acts, too. So if your partner only says it with his mouth but his actions don't match what he says, better don't believe any of it. If his actions are patchy are inconsistent, it should set the alarm bells in your head ringing too.

And how would you know his actions are good enough for you? You need to watch the attention he pays to pleasing you, doing things you like and doing them in the way that you like them done.

If he is not asking and making efforts to make you happy, it is unlikely that he actually loves you beyond the words that escape his lips.

If right actions are not matching the right words he says, it's all empty promises and you should not fall for that.______________Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

Do you have burning questions that you would love to get answers to?

Just send a mail to relationships@pulse.ng and I'll provide the most honest answers to them anonymously.

Note; the chances of getting a quick response reduces if the text in your email has a lot of abbreviations. So, please write as properly as possible.

So, why not send that mail today and let's talk about it?

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