"My husband has refused to have sex with me"

I need your advice on this issue.  There is no intimacy in my marriage again. My husband doesn't talk about sex again. Anytime I bring it up he'll ask if that's the only problem I have.  I don't know what to do. I haven't seen any trace of cheating or infidelity.  I  am a clean woman and I also know what's up as a lady. I don't know what is his problem. I have tried to talk things out with him but no way. Please I need your advice.

Thanks,

Beatrice

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Hello Beatrice,

Sexless relationships are one of the major problems many married couples have and this can cause a strain in the bond that exists between these people.

You need to find that emotional balance in your relationship with your husband, sex is an expression of love  which means it's not just about physical but emotional.

Have you as a couple stopped some romantic gestures you used to have at the start of your marriage? Maybe you need to rekindle that aspect, it's not just about knowing what to do, it's about doing what you know. Get back in shape if you have gained some serious weight, Wear some sexy lingerie, wear that perfume he so loves, spice it up a bit for him. Tell him things he loves to hear. You have to make an effort. Telling him you just want sex could sound very 'off' from his point of view, get him to sit and have a serious discussion on how you both can revive your sex lives before it dies completely, be open with each other while doing this. It's better not to have this kind of discussion in the bedroom, a neutral place like your kitchen would be fine to discuss whatever sex issues you both have.

I wish you all the best.

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