"I'm trying to forget my married boyfriend but he keeps coming back"

Hi Bukky,

I need your advice.

My name is Mosun and I'm in a relationship with a married man. At first I didn't love him because the thought of him being married rings in my head, he's so caring and fun to be with. He's a busy person but creates time for me.

The problem I'm having now is that I'm so in love with him and I always want him around but it's not possible cos he's married. Lately, he's been having issue with his wife and l've always advised him to settle with his wife so that he can have rest of mind and happy home.

He comes to my place to relax, eat and instead of going home to sleep, he sleeps at his work place though he owns the company.

Lately, he doesn't call or text like he used to when we started dating. He used to call me every hour but now it's just once a day though he still texts me but things aren't like they used to be. I invited him to my place to talk, he said he's very busy that's why that he's sorry blah blah... but I don't believe him...

I'm deeply in love with him, I don't know what to do to stop this because him not calling like before hurts me badly. I've been trying to forget him, stop loving him because it's stupid. Yes,  I know he's married. I don't know what to do, if I should end this or give him space. I have tried it but that was when he asked his brother to call me and ask why I've not been calling him. I can't explain to his brother because I'm trying to forget him but he's not working.

Please, tell me what to do.

Mosun.

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Hi Mosun,

I appreciate you sharing your concerns with me.

Staying with a married man is not an option for you unless he's planning to leave his wife. Breaking someone's home isn't an option either.

You have to face reality, do you want to go back to the way it was and keep being the 'other woman' or move on with your life and hope for a better and less complicated relationship in the future with someone else.

Also, you should have a good chat with your boyfriend and ask what his intentions are. You may love each other, but when reality come knocking he would have to choose between his family and you.

It may be hard getting over him at first, but it gets better when you meet someone else who'll make you forget all you've been through. All it takes is a little time.

Whatever you decide, think it through properly and clearly.

All the best dear.

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