Williams says that the extent to which we are devastated is as a result of the extent to which we compromised our terms for being in a relationship.

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In other words, we crossed our own boundaries and became distressed after we realised we didn't take that stand concerning what was important to us in the relationship.

He then goes ahead to compare relationships to boats on water, saying couples are afraid to 'rock the boat' and so it sinks.

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