This is a very familiar one, and every couple has been found guilty at one time or the other.
The problem with playing the blame game
The amount of damage caused in relationships by placing blame, cannot be over exaggerated as the truth is appalling in itself.
Relationships fail and continue to fail because everyone is shying away from their mistakes.
I learned a long time ago and far too early that, where i find myself today is based and always has been based on the choices i made up until this moment.
There would be lesser breakups if everyone was willing to stand up to this fact.
A young man falls in love and rushes into marriage because he cannot wait to begin building a wonderful life with that person.
Then one day, something doesn't go according to plan, and the beauty you wanted in your life, becomes the beast who tricked you.
If i had a penny for every time i have been told i was being a distraction, i would buy a house in Banana Island.
On the flip side, a young successful lady meets and falls in love with a colleague, but a subordinate and in a bid to prove her love and humility, gives up the job for something less glamorous.
So something goes wrong, cash gets tight and the brilliant man you were once willing to give it all up becomes the lazy bastard dragging you down.
These may be far fetched examples but there are those thing you realise you messed up about, and take solace in pouring the guilt on the easiest target.
The bottom line?
Own up to your mistakes, don't be afraid to apologise, and accept the roles you may have played to get you into that situation.
Only then can a relationship survive the bumps and realities that make up a successful marriage.
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