How do I become a more trustful girlfriend?

Dear Bukky,

I’m in a relationship with a guy for three months now.

We trusted each other in the beginning but along the way, I went through his phone and realised he flirts with other girls.

There's this particular girl who calls him always, even at dawn when we are asleep.

I’ve asked him severally and he swears there's nothing between them.

I keep on having dreams about this same girl, always telling me they are lovers but my guy keeps swearing heaven and earth that there's nothing between them.

Due to this I’ve lost total trust in him but I truly love him with all of my heart and we are planning on getting married but I still think there's something between them.

My guy is now complaining of me not trusting him and if I continue doing this, our relationship wouldn't last. I don't want to lose my relationship because I love him dearly.

Please help me. What do I do?___________________

Maybe you need to relax a bit and give him the benefit of doubt.

If he says there’s nothing between them, maybe there isn’t.

I understand how difficult is must be, having another woman call your man so frequently, and at such odd times. I suggest you relate with him on that.

Make him see reason why he needs to discourage or block that lady form calling him or messaging him. You’ll need to be very tactful about this because if you are not, it could be misinterpreted as a way of trying to manipulate or control him.

If you succeed though, you will have been able to save your relationship, and cure your trust issues in it.

I believe if he wants you to trust him without reservation, he has to do stuff that won’t cast shadows of doubt on his actions.

And that is one of those things.

Just play it cool. Be trustful and not unduly suspicious. At the same time, keep your eyes peeled for actions that don’t add up to what a trustworthy boyfriend should be doing.___________________

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