If at the end of the year there is a list of the most popular topics in 2016, marriage has to be one of them.
The nation has been so consumed with the topic and idea of marriage in 2016 (and 2015) and has become an obsession.
Last week, the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of GodPastor E.A Adeboye was mocked by a section of online Nigerians for his sermon about the type of women that make good wives.
Today, (August 11, 2016) popular blogger Linda Ikeji spoke about the pressure of marrying before 30. “Marriage is not an achievement. There is so much more to life than being someone’s wife. Get married please, but don’t be pressured into it. I don’t know how many of you single girls are under pressure to get married but I am. Pressure from family, friends and people who just can’t mind their business," she said, adding, "The pressure is so intense right now I feel like going to husband market – if there is any such thing- to buy myself some breathing space. Give me a break you people” she said in a recent interview.
Eligible bachelor Banky Whas written so much on marriage this year that he can pen his own book about the topic. We are still sniffing to find out if D’banj truly got married and actress Halima Abubakar who loves talking about marriage says she can’t have kids outside of wedlock.
Not only have Nigerians gone marriage crazy, celebrities have also joined in on the madness as well. Hardly a week goes by without a celebrity speaking about the over flogged topic.
It has been either the talk of marriage (as well as the pressure of getting married) or the crash of a high profile marriage (Tiwa Savage & Tee Billz) and former couples fighting (Toyin Aimakhu and Adeniyi Johnson).
Apart from the economic recession and politics, marriage is (likely) the most talked about subject in the country.
Why have celebrities caved in and joined the marriage discussion? Well it has to do with so-called fans who try to define the careers of our celebrities by marriage.
Nollywood amazon Genevieve Nnaji, 37, released her movie ‘’ last year and during her press rounds she was asked when she would be getting married.
Apparently Genevieve Nnaji releasing a Nollywood movie of international standard wasn’t of any concern. The big deal was when Genevieve will be getting married. Despite her success many people feel that she needs a ring on her finger to be complete.
Many of our celebrities are viewed with this type of lens- you can do anything you want to do but if you are not married you haven’t yet done much.
The constant bashing, harassment and trolling has gotten to many of our celebrities and now they are speaking up. It’s sort of annoying that they have to speak about marriage every time they are being interviewed.
There is no hope that the narrative will change anytime soon. Nigeria is a country that equates marriage to success and if you are not yet married you are not perceived as being completely successful, celebrity or not.