Most of the time we are the bad friends we all complain about - Actress Toyin Abraham

Nollywood actress Toyin Abraham has shared her two cents on what friendship is all about.

In a lengthy post shared via her Instagram page on Wednesday, April 14, 2021, the movie star said most times people are the bad friends they always complain about.

"You complain that friends are bad and so you don't want to have friends. I complain that friends are bad and so, I'd rather do without them. But honestly, who are these bad friends that make us all want to do away with friendships if not us all? Ṣé ẹ fẹ́ gbọ́ òótọ́, most of the time we are the bad friends we all complain about," she wrote.

"All of us are guilty in one way or other. We've been a bad friend to somebody at one point or the other. So, if we avoid, cancel or run away from everyone who has offended us at one point or the other, what do we do with ourselves?"

She went on to break down the dynamics of friendship and expectations from it shouldn't be over lowered.

"I think it is easier to point out other people's flaws than it is to accept that we are all flawed humans in some way. And so, when we expect perfection from one another, we ruin the beauty of friendships. Because ẹ wò ó, ká má parọ́, we all have our good and bad sides and it is never realistic to think that we can experience people without their flaws," she added.

"So, rather than avoiding one another, rubbishing one another, exposing our weaknesses and publicising our offences, hoping it would create the balance and stability we desire in our friendships and shield us from being hurt by "people", let us hold one another with grace and compassion instead."

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"It is only then that it becomes possible to lovingly hold one another accountable and help each other grow into our best selves! Igi kan kò lè dá igbó ṣe, ká fi ọwọ́ w'ẹwọ́ ni ọwọ́ fí ń."

Born in 1982 as Olutoyin Aimakhu, Abraham is a Nigerian film actress, filmmaker, director and producer.