In 2018 someone still feels like it is okay to “slut shame” the woman in a scandalous situation but the guy is a “Badt man” how hypocritical is that for crying out loud. It takes two to tango let’s not forget that.
I don’t watch Big brother and I do not know the YouTube star mixed up in the #visabae drama personally but I guess if you do not know about the #bamteddy shower action then you must be living under a rock somewhere. Everyone carried it and what baffled me the most about theses stories is how humans can easily point their fingers and condemn someone’s character so easily just because of a clip posted on social media.
I have seen comments about how Bam is “a hoe, loose, she won’t find a husband” I mean really? In 2018 someone still feels like it is okay to “slut sham” the woman in a scandalous situation but the guy is a “Badt man” how hypocritical is that for crying out loud. It takes two to tango let’s not forget that.
I am not saying what happened is good or bad, I am saying how is it any of your business? How does it affect you personally? How does a decision that was taken when you weren’t even there affect you? Who gave you the right of Judge, Jury and Persecutor? Slut shaming or criticizing or stigmatizing a lady because she doesn’t fit into society’s expectation of how a woman should behave, judging her for engaging in perceived promiscuity like you own her is wrong.
There are so many aunties and uncles preaching on social media on how this person is “prostituting and that person is doing wrong” but my question is since you have made it your business to condemn “loose women and men” have you spoken to your own neighborhood ashawo (prostitute)? Have you walked up to your neighborhood abegro (thug) to preach your sermons?
Are you debt free? Do you manage your own money wisely? I guess not. It is way cooler and easier typing your unnecessary opinions across the blogs isn’t it? Try talking to that person you see badly dressed on the street face to face first, before coming on someone’s page to insult them about their length of skirt, hair color or something that isn’t your business to begin with.
We all sin, we all do wrong because no one is perfect if we were then God wouldn’t have given us the Ten Commandments to guide our behavior. It is so easy to bash people in comment sections on how they are bad influences forgetting that it is super easy to rid yourself of all bad influences by simply unfollowing the source if you don’t like what you see stop looking. Stop with the mediocrity you that is shaking tables on social media do you dare in real life? You that is calling out a mother because of her grooming choices for her children remember HER children and not yours, are you a good mother?
If we focus half of the energy we use to comment and clapback on the socials in our lives and our communities then maybe we can start impacting but until then stop pretending to be this perfect embodiment of righteousness you aren’t Jesus Christ you are just man. Instead of being these social media trolls and holy sinners and stop with the hypocrisy imagine if our heavenly father condemned and judged us instantly for our sins and not just what seems like sins, how would life be?
If he doesn’t we shouldn’t too we have no right to. Spread love, light and positivity and if you can’t well why not just ignore you do not have to post that negativity you can just ignore, try it and you will feel better about yourself and your world.
Written by Destiny Awata.