9 Quotes from 'What Is Not Yours Is Not Yours' by Helen Oyeyemi that will actually change your life

1. “It was the usual struggle between one who loves by accepting burdens and one who loves by refusing to be one.”

2. “With boys there was a fundamental assumption that they had a right to be there—not always, but more often than not. With girls, Why her? came up so quickly.”

3. “Honoring delicacy over full disclosure only comes back to haunt you in the end.”

4. “To you who eat a lot of rice because you are lonely

To you who sleep a lot because you are bored

To you who cry a lot because you are sad

I write this down.

Chew on your feelings that are cornered

Like you would chew on rice.

Anyway life is something that you need to digest."

5. "Sorry" doesn't sweeten her tea”

6. “To have seen your lips and not ever kissed them would have been the ruin of me…”

7. “I remember Mum repeatedly telling us we had good hearts and good brains. When she said that we'd say 'thanks' and it might have sounded as if we were thanking her for seeing us that way but actually we were thanking her for giving us whatever goodness was in us.”

8. "You can only flaunt your triviality for so long before punishment is due.”

9. “It takes about a year and a month to fall in love, all being well.”

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