A woman who suffered from domestic and sexual abuse for seven years has finally had the courage to open up.
The 27-year-old woman decided to open up following the outcry that has followed the alleged killing of a Lagos based woman, Ronke Shonde, by her husband, Lekan.
Esther spoke on Channels TV where she narrated how her husband had been abusing her for the seven years they have been married and how she has been trying to hold on to the marriage since she had nowhere else to go.
Esther revealed that she got pregnant at 18, due to the hostility she was experiencing from her stepfather and after she gave birth to her child, the father of her child began abusing and beating her.
"My problems began after my mother remarried 10 years after my father died. My step father did not want to see me. He hates me and my kid brother with a passion. He keenly showed me hatred to the extent that whenever he was at home, I couldn't go into the house. I hung around, and I would not even be able to sleep in the house.
Owing to this treatment from my stepfather, I had to leave his house since the condition there was unbearable and I got into a relationship with a man and my life became a living hell.
I have no access to anything in the house; when he wants to go out, he will disconnect the wires and lock up the refrigerator. He denies my basic needs by locking up vital items in the house while he went to work.
When he is at home, I can’t come out to his presence, I can’t sit on the bed or chair unless he asks me to. He would always say I didn’t come to his house with chair so I can’t sit on it.
I became pregnant for him at 18 and safely put to birth. My baby was 9 days old when my husband started sleeping with me. I will complain of pains and he would not care. He will shout at me, tie up my hands and legs to have sex with me daily.
I endured all these because I had nowhere to go. I was there until I had 2 children for him despite the torture. After 2 more children and 3 abortions, I knew I had to move on with my life, else I will die in that house. I left the relationship after 7 years.”
Esther who now lives with her children in the Ijora area of the Lagos State, advised abused women to speak out as soon as possible, adding that the only way to break free from the abuse was to break the bond of silence.