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8 ways to being good lovers and friends

Don't let the "reality" of being together turn you into a dream killer. Friends support one another's endeavors.

Create time to laugh as a couple

1.) Go on adventurous trips/vacations

Find some exciting things that neither of you have done before. Whether it's a hiking trip, visiting a new country, or hopping on jet skis. Trying new things together helps you to be vulnerable with one another again as you both figure it all out! After all, there is nothing like experiencing something with your partner for the first time!

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2.) Find common interests

Sure you love spa day with the girls and he loves games with the guys, but finding a hobby you can share will definitely help you stay connected. It doesn't have to be something any of you do on the regular basis and it can also be something as simple as going to your favorite frozen yogurt spot. Highlight your shared interests and find things that you can do together as partners.

3.) Appreciate each other

Make sure that you are telling your partner what a great job they are doing. The longer you have been in a committed relationship, it becomes easy to become critical and scrutinize everything your partner does. To make him feel appreciated and loved, be sure that you are doing a lot more affirming than nagging and tearing down.

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4.) Don't give yourselves titles

Something possibly changes in our minds when we add the "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" title. Communication is not always as simple as it was when you were just dating. But occasionally you have to be able to put the girlfriend or wife hat to the side to allow your partner to be really open and honest with you. It's the "I won't get mad, but I just want to know where you are coming from," zone. Friends listen to each other without immediately flying off the handle.

5.) Laugh always

Create fun times with each other. The further you get into relationships, life becomes serious with real life issues, bills, and family. But make sure that you are incorporating time to just laugh and enjoy one another without bringing the serious things into it. Seeing a show, watching a comedy film, or reminiscing over good times are always to keep the laughter going.

6.) Make time for one another

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It's easy for our relationship to drive on auto-pilot at times when life gets busy with work, kids, and more work. But if you make time for girl's night, you need to make specific time for your partner as well. Date night is essential so that you have time to check in with one another without the distractions. Investing in your relationship includes knowing what's going on with your partner outside of your time together and this is the perfect opportunity to catch up.

7.) Accept their shortcomings

When it comes to our friends, we are a lot more understanding of their shortcomings than our partners. No one is perfect. Not even you. So be sure that you are allowing your partner to be themselves without feeling harshly judged about what they may be lacking.

8.) Learn from one another

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The times where you can either teach your partner something or learn something new from your partner are crucial. This creates such a sense of closeness and a bond that is not easily compromised. When you learn things from each other, you have an opportunity to connect and take an interest in something your partner may know more about.

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