"My boyfriend still sleeps with his ex and says she's like family"

oge okonkwo

January 1, 2016 8:59 PM

He got back with his ex when we disagreed within two days

I am a 17-year-old girl 200 level student at the university.

I'm so much in love with my boyfriend who is now my ex.

I demanded we broke up but ever since we did I haven't been fine, I cannot but think of him. It's like he exist in all that I do, I can't think straight no more!

He has been cheating on me with his ex-girlfriend claiming it's hard to push her away because the girl knows his family. His ex insults me on all social networks but I took everything from him until now that I feel like I have to let go.

With him I have built my upcoming life, with him I have decided my future and its like I can't love another. He has taken control of my heart infact my life. He is the only one I can talk about my problems with and now that he isn't with me no more I think a lot. We stay in the same hostel in campus and it has been really hard on me because of this.

He got back with his ex when we disagreed within two days. I think they cool now. but I love him, he is my world my life my everything and now that he is gone I need techniques to be able to stand back on my feet, to go on without him and be the woman I always wanted to be. Please help me.

Cynthia.

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Hello Cynthia,

Your case is a simple one. Let him go.

From your mail, your ex-boyfriend is still hung on his ex-girlfriend which was why he got back together with her right after you broke up with him.

As much as you say you love him, it's clear to see that he doesn't feel the same way and it's sad because you said you've built your life around im.

What you have to do now is to untangle yourself from the drama associating with your ex brings, learn to be more sociable, go out more often. You are still very young and have your whole life ahead of you, for now you can just go on dates not because you are on the lookout for a potential boyfriend, but just to have fun without any sexual attachment involved.

Find other things that make you happy, set achievable goals for yourself.

If he’s the one for you, he’ll notice the distance and come back but you don't have to dive back into that pattern. Let him know that you made a choice to let him go and you intend to keep it that way.

I wish you all the best.

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Yours truly!

oge okonkwo