"My girl says I'm too jealous but I suspect she's cheating on me"

Hi Bukky,

My name is Wole, I've been in a relationship for four years with a girl who I think is cheating on me.

We had this little quarrel some time ago and I accused her of cheating on me after finding out there was a particular number always calling her every time.

When I confronted her it led to a quarrel and she swore there was no other guy and I'm acting very jealous.  I'm confused because this number calls her every time and it's a guy.

This person calls every morning and night and when she doesn’t pick, he sends messages like "why are you not picking up your calls".

My girlfriend never picks his calls whenever we are together, the last I confronted her, she claimed he is just a friend asking me why she can't have friends.

I love her so much and I don't want to lose her. She keeps telling me to control my jealousy and I'm really hard to do that.

Please tell me what to do.

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Hello Wole,

A solid relationship is built not just on love but trust. You may love your partner but in reality it is not enough to keep you both together.

Do you trust your girlfriend enough to believe her when she says there's no other guy in her life except you? There's really no use in continuing a relationship where trust in non-existent.

If you believe she's cheating on you, there's no need to jump into conclusion till you can find concrete evidence. Phone numbers and text messages are just suspicions. Accusing your girlfriend based on your suspicions would push her away, doesn't matter if she's guilty or not.

Since she tells you the person who constantly calls her is a friend, you can request for a hang out so you can understand better the kind of relationship between both of them. Do this when you are having a heart-to-heart conversation and make her know you want the best from this relationship and you'll be willing to make things work out.

I wish you all the best.

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