Since I married my wife in June 1975, it’s been marriage and separation in two phases because any situation was determined by what I could offer.
A 70-year-old pastor, Mr Caleb Oluwafisibe, on Tuesday pleaded with an Ojo Customary Court in Lagos to dissolve his 41-year -old marriage to his wife, Titilayo, because he was sex starved.
The pastor, who ironically appeared in court wearing a polo T-shirt which had the inscription 'peace' at the back, told the court that he was already practicing a celibate life, even as a married man.
"Since I married my wife in June 1975, it’s been marriage and separation in two phases because any situation was determined by what I could offer.
"We were living well until 1998 when things became tough with me. We separated from 1998 to 2006, when my church transferred me out to the East,’’ he said.
According to him, my wife had a negative influence on my children as we had divergent views on their welfare and training. We always clashed because of them.
He said that his wife refused him sex from 2006 till date and that forced him to practice a life of celibacy, in order to keep his vows as a man of God.
"I even had a special prayer for my wife for three years to see if God would intervene in the difficult situation and change her personality,’’ he said.
Oluwafisibe, therefore, pleaded with the court to separate their union, so he could move on with his life.
The wife, Titilayo, however, debunked the husband's allegation, saying he was treating her without any tender consideration as a wife.
"He calls himself a pastor yet he does not have regard for his family. He has really caused so much division among our children,’’ she said.
The Court president, Mrs Veronica Willoughby, in her remark urged the pastor to reconsider his prayer of dissolution, as a man of God.
"As a pastor, you should seek peace and not separation. I will give you a second chance to go back and reconsider your intention.
"You have both failed in the training of your children by using them as a point of disagreement. Your children are your collective responsibilities,’’ she said.
Willoughby then adjourned the case till Feb. 16, to give the couple some time to reconsider their intentions.