'My wife is in the habit of beating me'

I met Henrietta through a cousin who was her friend. I had just come out of a terrible relationship when I met her and though I was not ready for a serious relationship then, she showed some qualities of a good woman and I began to fall in love with her.

But one thing I noticed about her was her quick temper and got angry easily when things were not done her way. I tried severally to dissuade her from such assertiveness but all to no avail.

But the moment we got married, she changed from the nice lady I met and became something else. The first time she hit me, I had just come back from work, tired and hungry.

Before I left, I had told her to prepare soup and semovita for me but when I got back, she had made rice and when I queried her, she got angry and told me if I wanted to eat something else, I should go into the kitchen and make it myself.

I got angry and shouted at her and to my surprise, my wife stood up from where she sat and dealt me a heavy slap. I was shocked and stood there looking at her, wondering if this was the wife I got married to barely three months earlier.

I quietly left the house and went to a nearby restaurant where I ate. When I got home, instead of apologizing for what she did, Henrietta started another quarrel with me, telling me I was an ingrate who did not appreciate all that she did at home.

Since then, she has continued with her habit. She hits me at every provocation. At times, things a couple can just laugh over gets my wife angry and she would use anything at hand to hit me.

She has inflicted wounds on me on a number of occasions but I always refrain from taking any action because of our young son.

She even slapped me in the presence of my friends but I took it as a man and let it go.

It is not as if I am weak or cannot beat her but I have never raised a finger on a woman all my life.

I swear if I decide to beat her, I may end up killing her. If I beat her now, women will come out calling me all sorts of names but now that it is my wife beating me, they will still say I am not man enough to handle my home.

I am against divorce because I come from a broken home and I know the effect it had on me.

I am stuck between the devil and the deep sea and I don't know how to tame my wife.

Wilson."

Dear readers, Wilson is crying out for help on how to handle his wife and marriage and so far, he has been a gentleman. On Morning Teaser today, we want you to help him with advice.