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<h2>Insults have been present throughout human history, from ancient cultures to modern times.&nbsp;</h2>

Whether used as a means of asserting dominance, venting frustration, or simply for the satisfaction of one's ego, the art of insult has long fascinated individuals.&nbsp;

Insults can be seen as a manifestation of our primal instincts. They are not merely expressions of disagreement or dissatisfaction; they are strategic weapons aimed at damaging a person's self-esteem, sense of belonging, and mental well-being.&nbsp;

The art of insults often involves selecting words or phrases specifically designed to belittle, demean, or humiliate others. These verbal daggers are typically targeted at an individual's appearance, abilities, intelligence, or personal characteristics.

Recognising the power behind insults is key to understanding the potential harm they can cause.

<h3>The art of insults and consequences</h3>

While the intention behind insults may be negative, there is a certain craft to constructing a cutting remark.&nbsp;

Like an artist selecting their colour palette or a writer choosing their words, a skilled insulter carefully crafts their insults to maximise their impact.

These creative insults often involve wordplay, sarcasm, exaggeration, or clever twists of language that linger in the minds of their recipients. It is within this artistry that the damage of insults can truly take hold.

Cutting insults can cause any combination of these results.

<h3>Emotional wounds</h3>

Insults can inflict deep emotional wounds that may last long after the words have been spoken. Being on the receiving end of a well-crafted insult can lead to feelings of shame, embarrassment, anger, and sadness.

These emotional scars can impact an individual's self-confidence and overall well-being.

<h3>Undermining relationships</h3>

Insults have the power to erode relationships. Whether between friends, colleagues, or even romantic partners, insults breed animosity and resentment. The trust and respect necessary for healthy relationships can be shattered by a single well-placed insult.

<h3>Mental health impact</h3>

The repeated experience of insults can take a toll on one's mental health. Constant exposure to derogatory remarks can lead to anxiety, depression, and a decline in self-worth.&nbsp;

Insults can also negatively impact concentration, memory, and overall cognitive function, affecting one's ability to perform daily tasks.

<h3>Societal impact</h3>

The prevalence of insults in public discourse can have detrimental effects on society as a whole. When insults become the norm, they promote a toxic environment where healthy dialogue is stifled, empathy is lacking, and social dynamics are disturbed. The perpetuation of insults undermines the fabric of a cohesive and inclusive society.

While we may not completely eradicate insults from our lives, understanding their destructive impact on mental health can encourage us to be more mindful of our words and actions.&nbsp;

By promoting empathy, building resilience, and cultivating a culture of respect, we can create a society that values constructive discourse and supports the emotional well-being of every individual.

Insults cut deep like daggers when carefully crafted [iStock]

Insults have been present throughout human history, from ancient cultures to modern times. Whether used as a means of asserting dominance, venting frustration, or simply for the satisfaction of one's ego, the art of insult has long fascinated individuals.

The damaging impact of insults on mental health

<h2>With each new season, the Big Brother Naija reality TV show continues to generate an unparalleled level of excitement among Nigerians.&nbsp;</h2>

With the show now in its eighth season, here’s how BBNaija became a cultural sensation with unparalleled popularity in Nigeria.

As a form of entertainment, BBNaija offers an escape from the realities of everyday life. Nigerians, like people everywhere, seek a break from the challenges they face.&nbsp;

The show provides a platform for viewers <a data-link-role-code="open_new_tab" href="https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/movies/cee-c-and-alexs-5-year-beef-is-finally-over-on-bbnaija-all-stars/ze945s5">to immerse themselves in the drama</a>, excitement, and <a data-link-role-code="open_new_tab" href="https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/movies/i-wanted-to-leave-bbnaija-all-stars-after-my-misogynistic-comment-seyi/6ksgx8e">suspense of the housemates' experiences</a>. It leaves them captivated, <a data-link-role-code="open_new_tab" href="https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/movies/cross-and-ilebaye-steal-the-show-during-pool-party-on-bbnaija-all-stars/s0fwqvn">waiting eagerly for the next twist</a>, turn, or shocking revelation.

<h3>Beautiful diversity and representation</h3>

Nigeria is a country blessed with various ethnicities, cultures, and languages. BBNaija consciously embraces this diversity, making it a celebration of Nigerian identity.&nbsp;

The housemates are carefully selected to represent different regions, religions, and social backgrounds of the nation.

This inclusivity resonates deeply with Nigerians, as they witness their own cultures and values being showcased on a national platform.

The sense of pride that comes from seeing someone from their tribe or region participating is immeasurable.

The rise of social media has significantly amplified the excitement surrounding BBNaija.

Nigerian viewers take to platforms like Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook to voice their opinions and form communities with fellow fans. The show's hashtags trend regularly, creating a virtual conversation space that extends beyond the live broadcast.

More crucially, fans can vote to keep their favourite contestants in the game and <a data-link-role-code="open_new_tab" href="https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/movies/tolanibaj-and-frodd-get-evicted-from-bbnaija-all-stars/sm159dk">decide winners and losers</a>.

This interactive dimension of the show transforms it into a shared experience, promoting engagement, and encouraging debates and discussions.

<h3>The thrill of competition and betting culture</h3>

Nigeria has a deep-rooted culture of betting and games of chance. BBNaija taps into this element by providing an opportunity for viewers to predict and bet on their preferred contestants.&nbsp;

This intensifies the excitement and adds an extra layer of competition, thereby fueling the interest of Nigerians who love to partake in such activities.

BBNaija has unquestionably captured the hearts and minds of Nigerians and its unmatched popularity can be attributed to several factors.&nbsp;

The show has successfully transcended the boundaries of <a data-link-role-code="open_new_tab" href="https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/movies/bbnaija-fans-unhappy-with-jury-style-of-eviction-which-has-saved-seyi-twice/2sn1cn6">a typical reality TV programme</a> to become a cultural phenomenon, shaping conversations, and <a data-link-role-code="open_new_tab" href="https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/movies/5-highlights-from-thursdays-pool-party-on-bbnaija-all-stars/ze1b9cg">leaving an indelible mark on Nigerian entertainment</a>.

20 housemates of Big Brother Naija All Stars Season Eight [Instagram/bigbronaija]

With each new season, the Big Brother Naija (BBNaija) reality TV show continues to generate an unparalleled level of excitement and engrossment among Nigerians.

How BBNaija became Nigeria's most popular reality TV show

<h2>There's something truly enchanting about bedtime stories. From fairy tales to adventurous quests, these beloved tales play a crucial role in shaping a child's imagination. </h2>

In this whimsical exploration, we dive into the magical world of bedtime stories and uncover the ways they ignite and nurture the boundless imagination of children.

<h3>Opening up the doors to imagination</h3>

Bedtime stories act as the magical key that unlocks doors to imaginary realms. As children listen to tales of brave princesses, wild adventures, and talking animals, their minds transport them to far-off places, where their imaginations run wild.

This escape into a world full of wonder fosters creativity and helps children think outside the box while developing their own unique stories and ideas.

Through bedtime stories, children become acquainted with a wide array of characters - from mythical creatures to everyday heroes.

These characters often become friends, mentors, or even role models, leaving a lasting impression on a child's imagination.

As children immerse themselves in gripping storylines, they develop problem-solving skills and analytical thinking. Bedtime stories often present characters with challenges, riddles, and mysteries to solve. By following along, children learn to think critically, formulate hypotheses, and eagerly anticipate the outcomes.&nbsp;

<h3>Expanding the horizon of possibilities</h3>

Bedtime stories introduce children to exciting, unexpected possibilities. Through tales of magic, talking animals, or enchanted lands, children start to perceive the world as a canvas of endless possibilities.

This newfound perspective encourages them to think beyond limitations and fearlessly pursue their dreams.

<h3>Becoming storytellers themselves</h3>

Bedtime stories not only inspire children to dream but also empower them to become storytellers themselves. As children listen to stories night after night, they develop a natural storytelling instinct.

They learn to structure narratives, create compelling characters, and develop vivid descriptions. Bedtime stories provide the foundation for self-expression and the confidence to share their own stories with the world.

Bedtime stories hold a timeless charm and wield a subtle power that nurtures a child's imagination. So, let us continue to weave the invisible threads of creativity, one story at a time, and watch as children's imaginations soar to new heights, shaping a brighter and more beautiful tomorrow.

Reading bedtime stories can benefit children in many ways [Lowvelder]

There's something truly enchanting about bedtime stories. From fairy tales to adventurous quests, these beloved tales play a crucial role in shaping a child's imagination.

How bedtime stories impact children's imagination

<h2>With its unique blend of entertainment, cultural representation, and widespread appeal, Nollywood is making waves not only in Africa but across the globe.</h2>

Nollywood prides itself in telling captivating stories that are special and relatable to the audience. From heartwarming dramas to action-packed adventures, Nollywood films deliver excitement and entertainment like no other.

<h3>Let’s talk about the actors</h3>

Behind every Nollywood film are incredibly talented filmmakers who pour their hearts into their craft.&nbsp;

Stars like Genevieve Nnaji and Ramsey Nouah have become household names, not only in Nigeria but globally too. Their dedication, passion, and undeniable talent have contributed significantly to Nollywood's success.&nbsp;&nbsp;

Actors like Adesua Etomi-Wellington, Sola Sobowale, Funke Akindele, Nkem Owoh, Timini Egbuson, and Osas Ighodaro, to mention a few, have made significant contributions to the Nollywood industry in the past 10 years, bringing fresh talent, versatility, and outstanding performances that have helped elevate the quality of Nigeria cinema.

<h3>Let’s talk about the directors</h3>

Without the amazing, talented and driven directors, there will be no Nollywood. Nigerian directors have contributed significantly to the growth and development of Nollywood by bringing their unique perspectives, technical expertise, and storytelling skills to the screen.

They continue to push boundaries and contribute to the success of Nigerian cinema both locally and internationally.

Directors like Kunle Afolayan, Kemi Adetiba, Mo Abudu, Niyi Akinmolayan,&nbsp;Mildred Okwo, Bolanle Austen Peters, Jadesola Osiberu have all put Nigeria on the global scene with their exceptional storytelling and ability to captivate audiences with compelling narratives and visually stunning cinematography.&nbsp;

<h3>Let’s talk about the awards</h3>

Nollywood boasts of several international awards, here are some of the most popular;

Directed by Nnaji, Lionheart won the Audience award at the 2018 Toronto International Film Festival (TIFF). It was also Nigeria's first-ever submission for the Best International Feature Film category at the Academy Awards, even though it was rejected based on a spoken language technicality.

Directed by Afolayan, <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/movies/pulse-movie-review-kunle-afolayans-the-ceo-isnt-a-conventional-nollywood-movie/9w2xpdp">The CEO </a>won the Golden Jury prize for Best Nigerian Film at the 2016 Africa International Film Festival (AFRIFF).

A lot of hype and fanfare followed the release of the movie [Pulse]

Directed by Chineze Anyaene, this film won several international awards, including Best Film at the 2011 African Movie Academy Awards (AMAA) and the Festival award for Best Film at the 2010 Harlem International Film Festival.

This film earned Afolayan the Best Nigerian Film award at the 2014 AFRIFF. It also won the Golden Peacock award for Best Film at the 2014 International Film Festival of India.

Biyi Bandele’s adaptation of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's novel, Half of a Yellow Sun, won the BAFTA Award for Best Adapted Screenplay in 2014. The film featured Hollywood stars such as Chiwetel Ejiofor and Thandie Newton, alongside Nigerian actors.

Half of a Yellow sun; an adaptation of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's novel [Pulse]

This Afolayan film won the Best Film award at the 2010 AMAA and gained critical acclaim both domestically and internationally.

With its compelling stories, talented artists, creative directors, and global appeal, Nollywood has captured the hearts and imaginations of audiences worldwide.

The world acknowledges the power of Nollywood, a force that not only entertains but also educates, uplifts, and unites people through the magic of cinema. Lights, camera, Nollywood!

Nollywood continues to capture the hearts of both local and international audiences [TheBostonGlobe]

With its unique blend of entertainment, cultural representation, and widespread appeal, Nollywood is making waves not only in Africa but across the globe.

Lights, Camera, Nollywood: Why Nigeria's film industry is making waves

<h2>Nigeria, with its diverse cultural heritage and impressive linguistic diversity, boasts over 500 distinct indigenous languages.</h2>

However, many of these languages are gradually fading away due to the domination of English and the lack of emphasis on mother tongue education.

Language is more than just a means of communication — it carries the essence of a people's culture and heritage.&nbsp;

Preserving Nigerian languages is crucial to maintaining our rich cultural diversity. Through mother tongue education, children can learn about their roots, traditions, and values, fostering a sense of pride and identity.

Studies have shown that learning in one's mother tongue enhances cognitive abilities and academic performance.&nbsp;When children are taught in a language they understand, their critical thinking, problem-solving, and linguistic skills are enhanced. Mother tongue education provides a solid foundation for future learning and overall intellectual growth.

Language is also key to effective communication because when children are proficient in their mother tongue, they have a stronger ability to express themselves, share their ideas, and engage in meaningful conversations. This promotes better relationships within their communities and bridges the generational and cultural gaps.

Nigeria boasts over 500 distinct indigenous languages [Nicholas Idoko]

Exploring the diverse languages of  Nigeria [Nicholas Idoko]

We spoke to some Nigerians about their unique experiences with mother tongue languages.

<h3>Tayo – 25-year-old front-end developer</h3>

I grew up in Abuja, so perhaps that’s why speaking Yoruba is hard for me. In my house, my parents spoke Yoruba to us, but my siblings and I responded in English. I can understand Yoruba, but if you start speaking something deep, I would be lost. Speaking the Yoruba language feels foreign to me, so I’m more comfortable speaking English or Pidgin.

My village is in Akure, but I have never been there more than three times in my entire life, so I don’t really know much about what they do there, like cultural festivals or way of life.

<h3>Chidubem – 27-year-old singer</h3>

I wish I could speak more than one language. I feel stuck just knowing how to speak only English. Funny enough I grew up in my village, as the last of six children.&nbsp;

Growing up, my elder siblings forbade me from speaking my native dialect because my immediate elder brother struggled to speak English in school. He was so used to speaking our mother tongue. Apparently, they didn’t want history to repeat itself with me, so I wasn’t allowed to speak my native language.&nbsp;

I’m from a tribe in Rivers State called Ikwerre. Most times I feel my elder siblings robbed me of the opportunity, because they are all fluent in Ikwerre, except me, so they know two languages, while I’m struggling with one.

<h3>Kabbir – 31-year-old business owner&nbsp;</h3>

I grew up in Kano, and I can speak Hausa fluently but my English is not so good. I don’t care as long as I can communicate with you — that’s what truly matters.&nbsp;

I can’t compete with someone from England in terms of speaking English, and someone from England can’t compete with me in terms of speaking Hausa. Hausa is my first language, and I’m very proud of where I come from, so I speak my mother tongue with pride. You can laugh at my English but you can’t laugh at my Hausa.

<h3>We need to preserve Nigerian languages</h3>

Preserving Nigerian languages is vital for the preservation of our cultural heritage, the cognitive development of our children, and the overall well-being of our society.&nbsp;

By prioritising mother tongue education, we can ensure the continuity of our diverse linguistic landscape, celebrate our cultural identities, and build a more inclusive and vibrant nation.&nbsp;

Why Nigeria needs to prioritise mother tongue languages [Ayo Babatunde]

Nigeria with its diverse cultural heritage and impressive linguistic diversity, boasts over 500 distinct indigenous languages.

'My spoken English is not so good but I don't care'

<h2>Since President Bola Ahmed Tinubu took over in May 2023, Nigeria has witnessed a drastic change in economic policies.&nbsp;</h2>

Some even argue the president is not giving Nigerians a heads-up about these changes, thereby making things harder for the average Nigerian.

It’s no news that having one income stream equals financial suicide. Exploring multiple sources of income to reduce reliance on a single job can go a long way in easing financial burdens. This can involve pursuing part-time jobs, freelancing, or engaging in side businesses.

Here are some cool ways you can thrive and financially breathe under the weight of Tinubu’s government.&nbsp;

<h3>1) Enhance your skills and embrace entrepreneurship</h3>

Invest in acquiring new skills or improving existing ones that are in demand. Start small businesses or explore self-employment opportunities.&nbsp;

With dedication and hard work, your skills or business can thrive and provide you with an additional income stream.

<h3>2) Embrace innovative solutions</h3>

Explore emerging technologies and adapt them to local needs to enhance productivity and create new opportunities.&nbsp;

The use of AI can help take your business and career to the next level. Market yourself through social media, networking events, and online platforms to attract clients.

<h3>3) Explore the agricultural sector</h3>

Nigeria's agricultural sector provides vast opportunities for income generation. Consider starting a small farm or investing in agricultural projects such as poultry, fish farming, or supplying poultry feeds. This sector is essential for food security and has the potential for substantial financial gains.

<h3>4) Save and invest wisely</h3>

Establish a saving habit and explore investment opportunities to secure financial stability and future growth.

<h3>5) Offer professional services</h3>

If you have specialised skills, such as graphic design, web development, content writing, or digital marketing, offer your services on various freelancing websites or directly to clients.&nbsp;

<h3>6) Take advantage of government initiatives</h3>

Stay updated with government initiatives and programmes aimed at promoting entrepreneurship and job creation.&nbsp;Look for grants, loans, or training programmes provided by the government that align with your interests and skills.

Remember, regardless of the government in power, creating a legitimate extra source of income&nbsp;is always a plus to you.

Bola-Tinubu, le président nigérian, nouveau président en exercice de la CEDEAO

Since President Bola Ahmed Tinubu took over in May 2023, Nigeria has witnessed a drastic change in economic policies.

There are ways you can financially breathe under weight of Tinubu’s admin

<h2>Often referred to as the "Giant of Africa," Nigeria is not only known for its rich cultural diversity but also for its vibrant and influential cultural exports.&nbsp;</h2>

From the mouthwatering jollof wars to the infectious Afrobeats, Nigerian culture is leaving its mark on the global stage.&nbsp;

<h3>The battle for the tastiest Jollof</h3>

Nigeria's culinary prowess has sparked a friendly rivalry among other West African countries. The jollof rice war has gained international attention, with Nigerians proudly proclaiming their version as the best, Ghanaians are also claiming otherwise.

Social media is the ultimate battleground where food lovers debate which country has the perfect Jollof recipe — but it’s a battle without an end in sight. This friendly food war has put Nigerian cuisine in the limelight.

<h3>A global music phenomenon</h3>

The world is grooving to the infectious sound of Afrobeats, a genre pioneered by Nigerian music legend Fela Kuti.

Today, artists like Burna Boy, Wizkid, Davido, Tems, Tiwa Savage and many others have taken Afrobeats to new heights by topping global music charts, winning prestigious awards and collaborating with international stars like Beyoncé, Drake, Chris Brown, Ed Sheeran, Selena Gomez and many more. Afrobeats has become the soundtrack of parties and festivals worldwide.

<h3>The African Hollywood</h3>

Nigeria's film industry, popularly known as Nollywood, has become one of the largest film industries in the world, even surpassing Hollywood in terms of production output. Nollywood films have resonated with audiences far beyond Nigeria's borders.

From heartwarming dramas to hilarious comedies, Nollywood movies have gained international limelight. The industry's rapid growth has showcased Nigeria's rich storytelling tradition and its ability to captivate global audiences.&nbsp;

Nigerian artistes have taken Afrobeats to new heights by topping global music charts, winning prestigious awards and collaborating with international stars

Nigerian artistes promoting Afrobeats round the world

Top 5 Moments in Afrobeats in the first half of 2023

<h3>A fusion of tradition and modernity</h3>

Nigerian fashion has become a force to be reckoned with on the global stage. From vibrant ankara prints to embellished agbada, Nigerian fashion has transcended cultural boundaries and gained recognition at international fashion shows.&nbsp;

<h3>A spectacle of energy and celebration</h3>

Nigeria’s rich cultural heritage is best experienced through its diverse dance forms and vibrant festivals. The energetic moves of Zanku and leg work have captivated the world, becoming popular in music videos and dance challenges.&nbsp;

Nigeria's cultural festivals, such as the Osun-Osogbo Festival and the Calabar Carnival, have also gained international acclaim, attracting tourists from far and wide to witness the colourful displays of traditional dance, music, and costumes.&nbsp;

Nigerian culture, with its cuisine, infectious music, vibrant fashion, and captivating festivals, has truly taken the world by storm.

From friendly culinary rivalries to global music sensations, Nigeria has made significant contributions to the global cultural landscape. The world is embracing Nigerian culture and all that it represents.

Often referred to as the "Giant of Africa," Nigeria is not only known for its rich cultural diversity but also for its vibrant and influential cultural exports.

Nigerian culture is taking the world by storm, from Jollof wars to Afrobeats

<h2>Over several decades and counting, the name Michael Jackson has remained a household name.&nbsp;</h2>

Even the Gen-Zs who, by default, do not know a lot of 80s and 90s pop stars and celebrities tend to know Michael Jackson and even recreate some of his iconic dance moves and songs in their TikTok and Instagram videos.&nbsp;

Michael Jackson, also known as the King of Pop, was an icon whose music, dance moves, and style influenced many across the globe. His songs from Thriller, Black or White, and Dangerous, are still massive anthems that people still sing and dance to today.&nbsp;

Michael Jackson died in 2009 [Business Insider]

2023 marks 14 years since the tragic passing of MJ, as he’s popularly called. Fans have been sharing videos and pictures of Michael Jackson with the hashtag, "14 years without MJ," a remembrance that shows how fans still miss the pop hero.

The love for Michael Jackson's music cut across every age group and social class. Along with the rest of the world, Nigerians — young, old, men, and women — remain fascinated by his unique voice, impeccable dance moves, and flashy fashion sense.&nbsp;

Many people in the country looked up to him as a source of inspiration and drew motivation from his technique. Peter and Paul Okoye, known as P-Square, emerged in the early 2000s as young artists heavily influenced by Michael Jackson — they tailored their dance moves, fashion and music after him, and they were loved and accepted by the audience. You can call it the Michael Jackson effect.

Michael Jackson commands an undeniable presence on global pop culture [NST]

Michael Jackson memorabilia is on display for sale at Times Square in New York City

Back in the day, his music was played in almost every club, and his fashion style was replicated by many Nigerians. When the news of his passing broke, many Nigerians were so heartbroken as he was indeed a gem.&nbsp;

Whenever a Michael Jackson song was played on the radio, or at a party, there was always a buzz and excitement that filled the air. His music transcended beyond just entertainment and became a unifying factor for people from different ethnic groups and religions in Nigeria.

Michael Jackson remains a legend and continues to inspire many people in Nigeria. He may have passed away, but his music lives on, and his legacy continues to be cherished by his fans in the country.&nbsp;

An era called MJ, the love from his Nigerian audience, will always be remembered, and Michael Jackson will forever remain relevant in the hearts of his listeners.

Michael Jackson's 1993 military-style jacket and gold harness suit jacket with gold is still one of the most iconic Super Bowl halftime show costumes.

His military-style costume went on to inspire Beyonc's look during her guest appearance at the Super Bowl halftime show in 2016, according to Harper's Bazaar.

Over several decades and counting, the name Michael Jackson has remained a household name.

Why Nigerians loved, and still love, Michael Jackson so much

<h2>Over the years, women have been labelled with different tags by men. To shatter a woman’s self-confidence and bring her sense of dignity to nought is as simple as calling her cheap.</h2>

In African society, women are taught to keep themselves holy and acceptable to whoever will marry them, while the men are allowed to roam and think freely without as much moral burden.&nbsp;

Times have changed with this generation, you can’t drag or eliminate a woman’s confidence and poise by playing the slut shaming card, especially not when both of you were in mischief together.

Society is evolving and gender stereotypes are blurring rapidly. Women are becoming more vocal and defensive of their actions and unapologetic about societal labels that seem to favour one gender.

With the new wave of feminism, women are kicking against labels, agenda and narratives that are curbing their entire existence, and women are saying “Hey, we’re not cheap,” and “We have never been cheap.”

Some Nigerians shared their personal theories about which gender is truly cheap;

<h3>Kedor – 30-year-old customer care representative in Benue</h3>

It’s funny how men have the audacity to call women cheap when they are the cheapest thing to get. All a woman has to do is smile at any man, and the man will be drooling like a goat.&nbsp;

The only thing a man thinks about when it comes to a woman is sex. Once he perceives sex to potentially be on the table, he will do anything to get into your pants. That’s why you see old men misbehaving just to please a girl of 19. From all my experience with men, I can tell you for a fact, any girl can get any man.

When I was in school, my friend’s boyfriend of two years broke up with her unprovoked. He claimed to have another girl he wanted to marry.&nbsp;My friend felt so broken, so I took it upon myself to deal with this young man.&nbsp;

All I had to do was dress nicely, and I went to a restaurant I knew he would be at. On sight, he couldn’t get his eyes off me and was running around me like a rat.

I gave him my number and two days after we started talking, he was telling me how he couldn’t live without me, that he was so in love with me. My goodness, I was so disgusted; this was someone who said he had someone to marry.&nbsp;

For the next two weeks, I continued playing the script, he gave me over ₦‎300,000, bought me a phone, and showered me with other gifts.&nbsp;

When I finally decided to disgrace him, I called him, his fiancé, and my friend to a place at the same time. He was utterly humiliated and his fiancé broke off the engagement because marrying someone like that is like signing a treaty with misery.

Men have the audacity to call women cheap when they are the cheapest thing to get.

According to relationship psychologist Claire Stott, currently a data analyst at dating app Badoo, after a couple of months, you're perfectly entitled to get some answers."It's difficult ...[but] I would say it's socially acceptable to talk about exclusivity after a couple of months," she told Insider. "You might do it before, maybe because the other person is totally on the same page, but I think give it a couple of months."Many people fall into the trap of throwing themselves into a relationship, only for it to fizzle out, she said. So it's best to wait a little while before you announce your partner as your boyfriend or girlfriend."But it is treacherous, it is difficult, because if you really like that person, you don't want them to be dating other people," said Stott. "Equally you don't want to scare them off."

You'll get some answers after a couple of months.

<h3>Dayo — 24-year-old software developer in Lagos</h3>

I think everyone is cheap. Women are cheap, men are cheap. Especially in this Lagos, the sort of demeaning things people do is alarming. I know women will reduce their standards as long as a guy has money but what irritates me the most are those men who beg women for sex.

I’ve seen and had experience of where a guy was kneeling down begging a girl just to put his penis cap inside her, I was so shocked. I’m ashamed of my gender sometimes, once they see breasts or ass they have lost their senses.

I had an outing with a couple of my friends and one came with his babe. Another girl came too — she was very curvy and pretty and smiled at everyone. My friend became so restless, with no regard for his babe and was subtly flirting with this other girl.

At some point, he was literally forcing his babe to go use the toilet so that he could get an opportunity to take the other girl’s number. It was at that point I gave up on my gender.&nbsp;

Women are also cheap, just flash a couple of naira notes and you have them riding you like a horse. One thing I know is we are all cheap. It’s just that some of us have little pride that makes us not look so cheap and accessible. But trust me if you have what I want, you have my full attention.

The film centers around Tish and Fonny, who have began dating after being friends their whole lives. When Fonny is falsely accused of rape, Tish and her family work together to support each other and try to get Fonny freed.Matthew Norman of the London Evening Standard wrote, "[Barry] Jenkins doesn't scratch the surface of the Black American experience. He takes you deep into its bones and suggests that far less has changed than the naive may believe.""If Beale Street Could Talk" is streaming on Netflix and Paramount+.

Over the years, women have been labelled with different tags by men. To shatter a woman’s self-confidence and bring her sense of dignity to nought is as simple as calling her cheap.

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