We asked 3 dudes what to do if you find your partner on a dating site

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August 16, 2017 12:52 PM

They got real honest.

Finding Your Boyfriend On A Dating App

Each month, we get real talk on relationship problems from three of the gents who put the "men" in

This month, we asked the question: "Someone saw my boyfriend on a dating site. He swears he never acted on anything, just browsed. Normal or dump him?"

Here's what they had to say:

Dean Stattmann, brand editor: "that’s not okay."

"If he'd just never thought to delete the app, depending on how long you were together, that's forgivable. But he admitted to using it since you started dating. That's dodgy. Swipe left."

Paul Kita, food and nutrition editor: "break up with him."

"Look, some guys might like leaving doors open—but they forget that open doors work both ways. If he's 'browsing,' you're leaving. Run, don't walk, out that door. End of story."

Michael Sneeden, senior video producer: "have a talk."

"It's not exactly cheating, but it's close. Dating apps are the equivalent of approaching a woman at a bar, and your guy's got wandering eyes. Talk it out to see if he's worth another shot."

THE CONSENSUS

Being in a relationship doesn't mean you both have to put on blinders. But his prowling around on an app whose sole purpose is real-life romantic connections is a major red flag about his desire—or ability—to stay committed.

This article originally appeared in the September 2017 issue of Women's Health. For more great advice, pick up a copy of the issue on newsstands now!

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