3) Cowgirl Now it's time for you to take the reins: The cowgirl presents an optimal opportunity to dominate your partner, an easy way in to full-on BDSM. Before you straddle them, maybe blindfold their eyes with a silk scarf or tie. With their consent, you can also tread into bondage territory. "If youre really a beginner and feeling shy, you can just start with having one partner hold the others hands over their head," Marin says. "You get that feeling of it, and you can get a sense of whether thats something you both like without having to buy anything new." Or use the same scarf or tie to restrain their wristsjust keep the knots loose if it's your first time. Either way, this position puts you in charge, so experiment with tweaking or twisting your partner's nipples, orif you have a male partnergrabbing his balls. Do It: Straddle your partner at their pelvis, pushing off their chest and sliding up and down their thighs. Lean back, hold their wrists down...you do you, cowgirl. Emily Schiff-Slater
4) Spider The spider is a solid option for any couple, whether for P-in-the-V action or, with a little bit of hip rotation, women looking to scissor. Why? The clitoral stimulation is unparalleled, and having your hands so close to your and your partner's genitals make touching everywhere so easy. In fact, this is a great position to up the kink with a remote-control vibrator or butt plug. Give the handheld remote over to your partner, and let them take control...literally. Do It: Sit on the bed with legs toward one another, arms back to support yourselves. Now move together and onto his penis (or her vagina). Your hips will be between their spread legs, your knees bent, and feet outside of their hips and flat on the bed. Now rock back and forth. Emily Schiff-Slater
5) The Pinball Wizard With your hands out of play, your partner is free to roam your body, finding sensitive spots neither of you may not have discovered before your foray into kinky sex. This sex position is also one that lends itself well to transitions (you flipping over, your legs on their shoulders, you turning on your side, etc.), so it's a great addition to anyone looking for steamier, porn-esque romps. Do It: Ge t into a partial bridge position (like a pinball machine), with your weight resting on your shoulders. Have your partner tie your hands to the bedpost or headboard, then let them enter you from a kneeling position. Emily Schiff-Slater
6) Cross-Booty The Cross-Booty is a standout (lie-down?) option if your man is into spankings and/or humiliation. (Trust me, some are.) Do It: Have him lie across your lap, with your hips tipped up so he can enter you. With his butt in the air, youll be perfectly positioned to give him a little smackwith your hand, or if you're feeling more ambitious, with a paddle, or any other toy youve both agreed is fair game. (P.S. While this position is better suited for opposite-sex partners, you you could make it work with a woman...you just may need more rubbing action.) Emily Schiff-Slater
7) Butter Churner Just looking at this sex move feels kinky, no? This dominating pose (for him) works really well with accessoriesas in, the edible kind. Have your partner dribble chocolate syrup or something sweet into your mouth. It gets more of your senses involved, amping up the entire experience. Not to mention, there's something really sexy about about two partners who are so confident in their bodies and attraction to each other that they're willing to pretzel themselves in all different kinds of ways... Do It: Lie on your back with your legs raised and folded over so that your ankles are on either side of your head, while he squats and dips his penis in and out of your vagina. (A female partner could also do this with a strap-on or fingers.) Emily Schiff-Slater
8) Flatiron There's something super animalistic and kinky about a position that's not only about taking you from behind, but also doing so while you're submissively lying facedown. If you're ready to try rough or anal sex, this is a good move for youthe close contact between your heads will make communication (including those safe words) easier than ever. Do It: Lie facedown on the bed, legs straight, hips slightly raised. Emily Schiff-Slater
9) Stand and Deliver Standing sex isn't easy, but it sure is kinky as hell. And the Stand and Deliver takes it up a notch, with your partner grabbing your hands (ready for bondage? let them restrain you with a tie or cuffs) and more or less dominating your body. All the blood rushing to your head in the bent-over positionplus the fact that your vaginal walls tighten in this stancecan seriously add to the intensity. Do It: With both of you standing, you bend over at the waist; your partner enters you from behind. Let them grab your wrists (and loosely or as tightly as you like it), then let them go to town. Emily Schiff-Slater
10) Reverse Cowgirl Did you really think I'd get through a kinky-sex roundup without including the one and only Reverse Cowgirl? This position is naturally kinky, because it gives your partner a full (and blessed) view of your backside as you ride them, and they can reach around to touch your clitoris, breasts, belly button, butthole, inner thighs...yeah, you get it. What's more, they can pull your hair, and you can twist around to choke them...the options are really endless. Do It: Your partner lies on his back; you straddle him, facing his feet. So simple! Emily Schiff-Slater
