"Insecure" actress says it's sexy to wait for 'the one'

Yvonne now stars alongside Issa Rae in the contemporary black-American comedy, “Insecure” as a very sexually-active attorney but mock-sex on TV is actually as far as it goes for the 33-year old actress.

Speaking at TEDx Wilmington Salon, Yvonne explains her early eagerness to have sex and how that was dimmed over time.

"You cannot date until you get married.”

That was what the actress’ thoroughbred Nigerian parents told her when she was 16 and sought permission to date [and maybe have sex] like all her American friends.

So, having been told by her parents that dating comes after marriage, and feeling annoyed and disappointed at that response, and willing to explore the spellbinding magic of sex, the comedienne planned to get married as soon as she became 18 and free from her parents’ stiff Nigerian ways.

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The actress had high hopes for her first sexual experience, planning to have some candle light and music in the room…

She was 17 and dreamy-eyed at the time…fastforward to 2017, the actress is yet to have that magical first time sex but she no longer cares.

A combination of her friend’s low expectation of sex, being “bamboozled by ” and her parents’ strict advice helped the pretty actress remain a virgin at 33 and come to grips with the fact that waiting for the real one is actually worth it.

Sharing a lot based on her experience, she says people need to be brave enough to;

1. Wait on the person who sees you for you and loves you regardless.

2. The one who sees value in what you value.

3. Wait on purpose and not in fear.

4. The one who makes you a priority.

5. Wait in the one who meets your standard.

“I cannot tell you how long you have to wait for this gorgeous person,” she says, “but I can tell you that the wait does not disappoint…”

Watch Yvonne Orji explain this in the light-hearted but insightful video below.