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Love & Sex When sex can become too much in a relationship

This is how to know when to slow down with the sex in your relationship.

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When sex becomes too much in a relationship

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The amount and frequency of sex in a relationship is something every couple decides on at some point.

And despite what you may have heard, the adequacy or excessiveness of sex cannot be universally judged. What works in one relationship may not work in another relationship.

"Healthy sexual expression exists on a wide continuum," says Dr. Rachel Needle [Yep, that’s her real name, Needle.], an expert American Sex and the Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes, in an Interview with Bustle.

"Every individual is different in what and how much of it they enjoy,”  she emphasizes.

Depending on the sex drive of you and your partner, the sex could be as scarce as once in a month or as steady as multiple times a day, almost every day.

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What decides frequency of sex

What actually matters most is an understanding between you and your sexual partner – whether or not you are in a relationship.

But then, there are factors that should play on your mind when making demands of your partner.

Things like work schedule, disparity in sex drive, level of relationship, anxiety, and mood have been known to have an effect on how much sex you get in your relationship.

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Yes, sex can be too much

If you have sex so frequently in a short while that it results in physical pain, then you need to slow down.

Dr. Needle says:

"Some people might experience physical discomfort from a lot of sex in a short period of time."

"For example, for females, it is possible to have less lubrication after prolonged sexual contact or penetration, which can lead to pain and irritation for themselves and their partner.”

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However, for partners with really high sex drive who still want to go on despite the soreness, this does not stop you from enjoying sexual pleasure.

The solution is in doing other things that do not involve penetration – oral sex and extended foreplay comes in really handy here.

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Communicate your sexual needs

As with every part of your relationship, the role of communication in sex should never be overlooked.

Is the sex enough or not satisfactory for you? Find a way to talk to your partner about it.

Would you rather reduce actual sex and improve other areas such as foreplay and oral sex? Find a way to discuss and reach a compromise and achieve a balance in your sex life.

The role of sex is keeping your relationship going should never be downplayed. Even if you are in a celibate relationship, there are still ways to know all you need to know about your partner’s preferences without actually having sex.

In any case, ensure do always do what is best for you and your partner and what works best for the level you’re on in the relationship.

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