While planning for a wedding, it is a common practice for friends and family to offer loads of wedding planning advice to brides in order for them to stay organized, cut costs , but sometimes, they offer really bad ones.
The below are five of the worst wedding planning suggestions received by white brides.
- "'Don't have an open bar.' That was my mom's advice to cut costs," says a woman. "My friends are still griping about it! Yes, shame on them. But at the same time, I'd gladly give $800 more now to get them to shut up about how limited our alcohol selection was, and what they had to pay to enjoy themselves."
- "My mom convinced me I didn't need a wedding planner, despite the fact that I was planning a hometown wedding from my new city, which was a four-hour flight or 16-hour drive away," says another former bride. "So, instead, I spent as much money in trips home — and who knows what incalculable costs to my sanity — getting home to do the things I could have employed a planner to do, when I could have spent that same chunk of change on a planner who could have done it for me."
- "When my sister heard my disappointment in not being able to afford our dream wedding, she encouraged us to take out a loan," says one woman. "She reasoned we'd only have this one chance, so we should make it perfect, no matter the cost. I listened, and we're still paying that loan off. It's been two years."
- "I was told to send invitations to co-workers I didn't actually want at my wedding because, 'you don't want to offend people you see every day,'" says one bride. 'Which, yes, I get the sentiment. But I was also told those people likely wouldn't show up. They did. And then I was stuck with them at work and at my wedding!"
- "A friend told me, 'It's your wedding day and that means it's all about you,'" says one former bride. "While I can see where she's coming from, hearing that just rubbed me the wrong way. Our wedding day was a celebration, and I wanted to make sure my guests and family enjoyed themselves, too. It seemed selfish to only care about myself!"
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