Your friend has chosen you to be his right-hand man on his walk down the aisle, and you are determined to be the best assistant to him but you really don't know how to go about it.
These helpful tips from Stephen Newton, who has been a best man 8 times, should give you ideas on how to get it right.
Read Newton's advice on how to be the BEST best man ever:
- Funny speeches are good, but keep the humour directed at the groom, and, depending on the size of he wedding, the humour needs to be PG-level in terms of family friendliness. You're probably being taped and they'll be watching this for years to come... have to keep it classy.
- Anecdotal stories from the past are always pleasing to relate. Most of the folks at larger weddings may not know the groom at all, or not know him well. You want to be funny but also show that person's positive qualities. People want to know that the bride has made a good decision and is marrying a good guy.
- Do NOT forget the bride. It is a best man speech, but it is her wedding. If you know the bride (and as you're the best man you probably do) tell some funny stories about when they first met. Do not embarrass her. Easy stories to tell is how beautiful/enchanting she is and some of the goofy stuff the groom did as he was falling in love with her.
- Honour the parents and/or hosts of the wedding. They more than likely shelling out a lot of cash and spent a lot of time helping the couple prepare, they should be noticed.
- (If applicable) Honour a deceased parent. When my best friend got married, his mother had passed away about 4 years before. I was able to mention her and how proud she would've been to see him getting married. It went over very well and many people thanked me for speaking of her as that sort of thing is hard to introduce into casual conversation.
- Practice a bit. I'm not the type to memorize my speech beforehand, but I will keep cards will bullet points at the ready to make sure you don't miss a certain anecdote.
- Be sincere and warm. It is a wedding and it is OK to let down your "man-guard" and express affection for the groom.