11 Wedding Traditions You May Have To Skip On Your Big Day

Change is the only constant thing in life, so you don't have to repeat all those well-worn wedding traditions everyone has seen before.

Here is an interesting writeup put together by AANW.com, and we are sure you'll find it quite useful.

As Nigerians, we partake in numerous wedding traditions that have either been influenced by western culture or better still, passed down from generation to generation in our own culture.

However, we are certain there are some traditions that we could do without and no one will notice or be upset.

Well, maybe a few people will depending on what traditions we skip. It’s not like it’s their wedding after all.

Check out some of them below:

1. White wedding dress: What year are we in again? You don’t have to go for the traditional white colour. You can go for ivory as well. If you love colours, add a splash of colour to your gown via your shoes, waist belt or bow, and jewelry. Some brides are even taking the step forward in nude, light pink, pewter and champagne coloured gowns. Not your typical dress but it definitely adds a touch of uniqueness and reflects their personal style. You can still be YOU in your wedding dress.

2. Male bridesmaids (bridesmen) and female groomsmen (groomswomen): As the bride, if your best friend is a guy, you don’t have to eliminate him from your selected group of friends that make up your bridal party; simply make him “man of honour” or “bridesman”. Forget the stereotypical bridal party assemble. The same applies to the groom as well. We are yet to see a Nigerian wedding where this has happened yours could be the first. ;-)

3. Bridesmaids wearing matching dresses, hairstyles, shoes and accessories: You know your girls don’t like pearls so why make them wear one. As the bride, you can dictate the colour, fabric and perhaps the length of the dress but let the ladies on your train go out and pick a dress that reflects their style or personality. Just like you, they need to be comfortable in their outfits on your day. Being comfortable can equate to having fun and throwing all moodiness out of the window. If possible, let them choose their shoes and accessories as well.

4. Traditional exchange of vows: There’s absolutely nothing wrong with saying the same ol’ lines many people have said before you and will say after you. However, there’s something special about writing in your own words, how you feel about your darling and about your future together. These special vows moves people; talk about “awwww” and tear jerking moments. You don’t have to be a poet, song writer or author to come up with romantic lines; you can start from scratch or paraphrase borrowed lines from your favourite romance novels, movies, songs and poems.

5. Making a grand entrance into the wedding reception preceded by the bridal party: We already saw the bridal party walk down the aisle in church and the beautiful bride and handsome groom make their grand entrance in and out of the wedding venue. However, having the MC introduce all members of the bridal party as they engage in their mini walk-in/dance-off which clearly takes at least a good 5 minutes can be skipped. Rather, they can dance into the hall with the bride and groom in between, which saves time or better still, just introduce the bride and groom alone. They deserve the introduction but we could cut off the bridal party dance/walk-in portion. We bet you wouldn’t notice it either.

6. Separating the bride and groom’s side of the family: This needs to stop. The whole purpose of the union is to make the couple one and indirectly the family one. However, it’s a common occurrence to see the clear split amongst both sides of the family. We already know who is who based on the colour of their attire and gele. There's no need to even split people further in the hall based on what side of the family they are related to or friends with. Wouldn’t it be awesome if you had a table consisting of a mix of the bride and groom’s relatives; talking and getting to know each other? Great networking opportunity if you ask us. Don’t you agree?

7. Dancing in of the parents of the couple at the wedding reception(typically accompanied by friends of the parents or groups of people they choose or select): This can definitely be skipped. Not only does this take up a big chunk of the beginning portion of the ceremony due to parents being “danced-in” by their friends, as well as association members and aso-ebi buyers, it’s just not necessary. May we suggest having an usher or selected guests gracefully walk them through the reception hall to their designated seats.

8. Newly weds’ first dance: If there’s any time besides when it’s time for food and dance-dance-dance where there’s no much side conversations at a wedding reception, it’s during this time. We are sorry but it’s pretty boring to watch two people slow dance to some ballad and we believe majority of attendees agree with this. Most newly-weds now spice things up and turn this into a group dance type segment where they play songs like Cool & The Gang's “Celebrate” and have their friends come on the dance floor to partake in a line dance with them. Now that’s fun. If you must have it on your agenda, at least make it fun for the guests. The same can be said for “Father-daughter” or “Mother-son” dances. However, we say keep this tradition. Every parent looks forward to this. You wouldn’t want to let mommy and daddy down, especially not after the tons of cash they put into the day.

9. Tossing the bouquet: While we enjoy watching women jump to catch the bouquet, we think that part can be skipped also. As a wedding guest, most ladies loathe this portion of the agenda and it doesn’t help that you have aunts and uncles pointing you out as a single lady to the MC. Now the saying that the person to catch the bouquet will get married next actually proves to be just a myth, so there's no need to take it so seriously.

10. Tossing the garter: No need to go into details here. Our reasoning with “Tossing the Bouquet” above applies here as well. Think of it, how many guys have you heard say: “I wish I caught the garter..”. We bet the answer is none. In our opinion, this can be skipped and there have been weddings where neither the bouquet nor garter were tossed and everyone was fine.

11. Giving out wedding favours: We say skip! Why waste money on something people will leave behind at the reception venue. Need we say more?

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