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Opinion What do you need to change in your relationship when you marry?

Should their manner of relating with each other change after a guy and a babe become husband and wife?

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At the point where a boyfriend and girlfriend transition from that to husband and wife, do they become different people or the same people with different titles?

Easy as it may seem to choose what the correct answer is on paper, many marriages have begun on terrible notes because one of them answered that question wrongly in real life.

I really can't remember the particular Instagram page, but I recently read a story on one those popular relationship blogs. In it, a woman narrated how her husband switched up on her immediately they became married. The guy who used to be all sweet and unbothered by traditional gender roles suddenly became one who had a problem making his own meals no matter how tired his wife was.

It's been a little while so I can't remember much of the details of that story anymore but I hope you catch my drift here. There are men who legit believe that they assume a certain 'manly' or 'authoritative' position when they become married. People actually believe that the difference between being a boyfriend and a husband can be established by becoming a different person entirely.

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I have come to tell you today, dear man, that this is absolutely false. You are a man with a different title, of course. And she is a woman with a different title, too. But that's as far as that change goes! You do not need to change into some authoritarian asshole in the name of being a husband. And you do not have to be subservient maid all in the name of being a wife!

If you were a playful goofy boyfriend, continue in that vein when you are married. Your woman is the same and if she loved you goofy on friday night before your wedding, best believe she wants the goofy you on Sunday morning after the wedding. It does not make you less of a husband if you stay goofy. Does it still make your woman happy? Then keep it up!

Does your boyfriend like you wearing certain clothing when you were his girlfriend? Then don't stop wearing them when you become his wife! Chances are that he'll still love you looking that way!

Your name and title may have changed at the point of marriage, but that's as far as it goes! Keep relating in the same way that made you happy enough to decide to marry each other.

That's the energy you need to keep up after marriage!!!

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