The occurrences of cheating and its effects on relationships cannot even be argued or denied. What can be argued, however, is the popular perception people have about the major perpetrators of the vile act.
Many times when we hear of cheating, many are quick to link men to its commonness. And that is really understandable. The numerous cheating stories shared on social media and the Internet are posted by more women than men. Seeing this, it’ll seem that men are breaking hearts and betraying trust more than women.
But is this really conclusive evidence of anything? Facts, stats that show that women cheat more than men Well, it certainly seems so.
There’s a video circulating on social media where a female relationship expert tells Hafeez and Chris, the anchors of the Roommates Podcast that in her experience, women actually cheat than men, and of course, the anchors were both taken aback. We were, too.
“It is absolutely true,” she says to establish her claim that women are worse cheats than men.
When asked again, she answers again with a specific “yes, it is very true.”
Hers is not the only claim indicting women of being more terrible at cheating than we previously thought.
Recently, the result of a certain study was shared on social media which apparently shows that Nigerian women are only second to Jamaican in the world when it comes to lying to men about the paternity of their kids.
The genuineness of that study has however been thrown into doubt here
The popular belief remains that when women cheat, they have a greater ability than men to hide the affair. Because they are hardly suspected while men are usually caught in the act, it has helped to further fuel the idea that men cheat more than women.
Dr. David Holmes, a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University said that, “The biggest difference [between men and women who cheat] is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret.”
Women are so good at hiding their affairs, in fact, that Dr. Holmes seems to affirm the claim about paternity in that paragraph above.
“If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between 8% and 15% of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent,” he says.
The rise in the number of cheating women could be due to the use of social media. With social media, private chats and dating sites being available to everyone, avenues to cheat and get into side relationships have become increased.
Work place proximity has also been listed as a possible cause. Compared to the decades before now, more women are no longer staying at home as caregivers, neither are they content to take the traditional gender roles of the past years. The fact that there are more women in the workplace and all sectors provides more opportunities for workplace romance to blossom.
And apparently, just like men, women are jumping at the opportunity to get frisky with their colleagues and other people connected to them through work.
Finally, while there can be endless studies and research trying to establish a final truth to this unending argument about cheating between the genders, one thing remains obvious: men cheat and women cheat. That can't be argued.