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Relationship Wednesday Ask these questions if you're getting pre-marital jitters

The answers will either calm your nerves or show you the direction to take in your relationship.

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It wasn't long ago when a Twitter user dropped one sensational story of pre-marriage jitters on us.

The user, @bunmi_bum_bum narrated how she called off her wedding on the very day of the ceremony because, according to her, she was pressured into it due her age even though she "didn't like him like that."

Make of that what you will, but she is not the first, neither will she be the last bride to get pre-wedding/pre-marital jitters even though only few ever drag to such a dramatic end as hers.

An issue with men and women alike, pre-marital jitters makes you wonder if you are really doing the right thing by deciding to marry that person at that time.

It prompts fear, worry, anxiety and sometimes panic attacks.

Why people settle for less than they feel they deserve in relationships play Fear, worry... panic attacks (Breed)

It'll be unreasonable to just discard those fears, and worries and as Vikki Ziegler of DivorceDating says, here are the 17 questions to consider if one or both partners find themselves experiencing before-marriage nerves.

1. Why, really, do you love your partner?

2. And for reasons do you think your partner loves you?

3. How solid is your relationship right now as you consider marriage?

4. How often do you experience relationship fights and disputes?

Couple fights play How do your disputes get resolved (BYM)


5. How do you settle them?

6. Have you resolved past relationship issues so that you can move forward in building a healthy relationship?

7. Is violence (physical, emotional, or mental) ever an issue in your relationship? If so, how is it handled?

8. Do your arguments ever make you think your partner has “anger issues?”

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9. How do you show your partner that he or she is your top priority?

All the answers you need before entering into a relationship play How honest and open are your conversations? (Youth Village)


10. How often do you talk openly and honestly with each other? Is it enough for you?

12. What have you done, specifically, to build your relationship this week? What has your partner done?

13. What qualities first drew you to your partner?

14. What needs are you trying to meet through your relationship? Is your partner meeting those needs?

Loving relationships play Are your emotional needs being met? (Pinterest)


15. What issues from your past do you have to resolve in order to ensure that your current relationship does not suffer?

16. What would your partner say you need to change for your relationship to improve?

17. What qualities does your partner have that you lack?

Answering these questions as honestly as possible, and seeking honest answers where needed will go a long way in calming your nerves, and helping you determine if you really

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