She doesn't give me enough attention; should I leave?

Hi Bukky,

I am sending this from Kaduna.

I have been talking with a lady for about three month now, but the relationship is not getting the required connection l want.

After getting her number, l sent her messages for two consecutive months without missing a day. l also called once or twice a day to ask how her day was and also tried to chat a lot with her on WhatsApp.

I started feeling a bit bad when she didn’t return the calls even when she missed them. Regardless l still asked that we go for a date.

We went on a date once and it was fun. But before the date, she had complained one day that l ask too much questions, which l explained to her that it’s because l want to know better.

So during the date, l did most of the talking, jokes and storytelling, and she was laughing and smiling.

I thought the necessary connection had been struck. A month later, she was still sounding mean to me and when l complained, she told me that she didn’t think what I was trying to start would work.

She also said she is not feeling the connection. I stopped texting and calling for five days and she never called or texted to ask if l was OK.

On the sixth day, a friend asked me to just call her and l did. She answered the call as if nothing happened.

In the nutshell, we are back talking but the whole drama is making me to lack ideas. Please advise me on what to do._________________

Dear reader,

I’d say leave her alone and let her be because that is what I would have done if I were in your shoes.

Life is actually too short to waste time, love and attention on people who do not appreciate them. It is a draining, demoralising experience that you do not have to go through, frankly.

On the other hand, maybe the woman just needs to be convinced a little more and I think the way to do that might be to change tactics.

Your first date was a success, why not do more dates instead of just calling her when that apparently does not work?

Never change a winning formular. So do more of what works.

Make the dates more frequent, more fun and always bring your A-game every single time. Make her laugh, make her smile ask questions that are centered around her interests and not just the random things.

Try and get a thoughtful [inexpensive] gift on every two dates you guys go on.

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