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Relationship Talk "My girlfriend rejects any form of sexual contact, it's frustrating"

I can’t even kiss her, it’s that bad! What can I do, please? It’s a frustrating situation for me.

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I am in a relationship with this girl who refuses any form of sexual contact.

Now I understand people have reservations about premarital sex and all that, but the thong is this particular girl is not a virgin- she specifically told me so.

She has had two boyfriends before me and she admitted to having sex with both of them. However, she says she has promised herself not to do anything sexual until she’s married.

Truth be told, I like her and we have been dating for just two months but I am not comfortable with a sexless relationship.

The problem now is that, I don’t want to press her for sex, as it might make me look like that’s all I care about. I don’t want to break up with her either, because I really like her.

I can’t even kiss her, it’s that bad! What can I do, please? It’s a frustrating situation for me.

Dear reader,

I see two possibilities from this situation.

You either accept a sexless relationship, or you let her go. [Except, if somehow, she changes her mind]

I will not advise you to push the sex matter against her wish though, considering how rape is a very very delicate matter these days. More emphasis on delicate.

Considering the first option above, the question is for how long can you stay in a sexless relationship? Are you ready to get married to her? How soon do you see that happening? Can you remain without sex in that time?

Those are questions that you need to answer. I think compromises and sacrifices are all part of the love game, and if you really love her as you say, sticking with her in that sexless relationship  is worth considering.

If not, however, I think it is understandable to walk out of the relationship. Better get out than stay in it and cheat on her.

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