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Relationship Talk "My boyfriend's bestie wants to steal him from me"

How do I get my boyfriend to cut his ties with this his childhood friend, without hurting him [my boyfriend] in the process?

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Hello, ma’am,

I read the story about the younger sister that tried to take her sister’s man, and it prompted me to send this as I have almost the same problem with just a little variation.

My new boyfriend has a female friend that he has known since he was a kid.

They went to the same primary school and all that. He’s a graduate now and just started working in the same company with her, so they still get to see each other every time -  she even got him the job.

I just started dating the guy like one month ago even though he asked me out for three months.

My problem now is this, just as soon as that his female friend heard we started dating officially, I noticed she became a little cold towards me.

And somehow, she ‘casually’ mentioned to someone around me how she and my boyfriend used to have sex in the past until they stopped because she was catching feelings for him and he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship.

My boyfriend has actually told me the story in the same exact manner and I don’t mind because I too have my past.

What bothers me now is that, I want to stop them from being friends because I think her goal is to ruin what I’ve got with my boyfriend.

However, I don’t want my guy to lose his job because she is a bit influential at the company. Please what should I do?


I think the best thing to do is to talk to your boyfriend about all this.

He is the one in the best position to cut ties with her in the most diplomatic manner possible. Confess your fears to him, tell him what you suspect his friend might be up to.

A good man always watches out for the interests of his woman.

Of course, given her history of emotional attachment to him, your boyfriend should not have problems believing that she might indeed be out to cause a break up between you both.

Calmly and gently severing ties with her, or reducing it to be barest minimum is what your boyfriend needs to do – at your request of course.

Just relax for now, and let your man protect the relationship if he actually values you in his life. He began this, it’s about time it ended, and he should be the one to make it die a slow death.

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