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Relationship Talk "My big sister's friend refuses to date me, it hurts so bad"

I must confess, it really hurts to know I can’t have her.

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I really like my elder sister’s friend. She is older than me by six years. She’s 28, I’m 22 but she is so pretty and I have always liked her since the first time we were introduced.

I have not asked her out yet or anything because of the way she relates with me.

I am a graduate and I’ll soon finish NYSC but she acts towards me like her younger brother. Whereas, me I’m just so attracted to her… the way she talks, her looks, her smile, the scent of her…

I must confess, I have masturbated few times to the thought of her. It hurts to know I can’t have her, really.

I just want to know why older women feel it is wrong to date younger men.

Dear reader,

It’s pretty sad that sometimes in life we do not get the things that we really want.

The Nigerian society is yet to come to terms with the idea of older women and young men falling in love.

And although you hear stories here and there of people with this type of relationships, the society has yet not become accustomed to it, so there are still loads and loads of pressure from families and friends when people want to enter into such relationships.

All that should not stop love from blooming between two people though. Age could be just a number depending on the two people in the relationship.

In your case, I feel if this particular babe wasn’t your elder sister’s friend, you’d probably stand a higher chance of getting her. As you said, she sees you as a younger brother, and that is probably what she’ll ever see you as.

Another thing, are you sure you are attracted to her because you really like her, or you are only driven by a sexual desire for her?

You need to be sure of that too. If it’s an infatuation, let it slide. If not, I advise you work pretty hard towards getting her to have a different opinion of you.

For anything to happen between you two, she’ll need to start seeing you as a ‘man’ and not just as her friend’s younger brother.

That might take time to achieve, but without it, I think your chances of ever getting her are as good as absolutely gone.

Click here to understand more about why women hardly go for younger men.

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