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Relationship Talk "I've never found someone like my ex, it hurts so bad"

My friends have tried hooking me up but still they all have one thing or the other that doesn't just suit.

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Relationship Talk


Dear Bukky,

I would like to ask you some bothering questions but here's a bit about myself. I'm 24 and love cooking.

I'm not social but I try to be friendly and meeting people is not just my thing which makes me love staying indoors.

Okay... so I broke up with my ex two years ago and since then I've not been able to date again.

I've not accepted to date any guy asking me out because either they don't meet up to my ex's standard or they just too old for me.

Aside that, I've decided to face just my catering business in order to grow it. I did this, thinking it would take my mind off the issue.

But sincerely, I’m so lonely and I miss having someone all to myself, i miss being loved and cared for by a special one.

My friends have tried hooking me up but still they all have one thing or the other that doesn't just suit.

Don't know what else to do or who else to talk to except God.

Hi reader,

Thanks for talking to me, too. I appreciate the trust.

Let me begin by saying that I admire how you are taking your time to meet the best person for you. Exercising due diligence and being reasonably careful before committing to anything is the way to go about entering into a relationship.

However, the best person for you now might not be someone like your boyfriend, so you need to put away that expectation.

There is someone better out there waiting for you and expecting to find someone like your ex just limits the whole thing.

Realistically, there is also the possibility of meeting someone who seemingly does not meet up to that standard but you can’t even be sure without giving these people any chance.

I advise that you take your time, look well and seek out the one who ticks most boxes of the things you expect to find in a partner.

He does not need to meet all the requirements; really, all he needs to have is a substantial amount and an apparent openness to bend here and there to make the relationship work.

This is not a fool-proof advice and does not mean you’ll automatically get a fairytale kinda romance, but you stand a chance.

And for someone as lonely as you say you are, you can’t afford to lock up yourself and shut off all the possibilities.

Even if you are not the outgoing type, leave your DM open.

Do not be quick to shut down conversations that seem to have possibilities. The possibilities are quite great if you let yourself go.

And lastly, be patient with yourself. No need to rush even in the midst of all this.

Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

Do you have burning questions that you would love to get answers to?

Just send a mail containing your question and location to relationships@pulse.ng,  and I'll provide the most honest answers to them anonymously.

So, why not send that mail today and let's talk about it?

A problem shared is a problem half-solved!

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