"I'm too emotionally attached to my friend"

I feel so emotionally attached to him so much that I have sleepless nights sometimes

 

Hi Bukky,

My name is Bisola. I'm in love with a friend who isn't presently here in Nigeria. He actually asked me out years back but I rejected, now I feel so emotionally attached to him so much that I have sleepless nights sometimes.

We got talking and decided to make things work out.

Right now, he wants me to come see him which means I have to travel and spend at least two weeks. He says he'll speak to my parents before we conclude on my travel plans.

The issue is that I'm scared of how emotionally attached I've become to him though he's so far away.

Please I want you to advise me if I should go ahead with the travel plans or not.

Thanks.

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Hello Bisola,

Love is a bold step everyone should take at least once in a lifetime but you should also be careful in order not to make mistakes.

You may be emotionally attached to him but does he feel the same way about you? If you feel he does from the way he behaves with you, then nothing should stop you from taking that bold step.

The decision on whether to go or not lies with you but you have to think about it first, and then weigh your pros and cons too. If you really want to see him, I'll advice you get your parents involved in whatever plans you are making with him and don't forget to keep your parents informed.

All the best.

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