"I'm 28; it hurts that I have no one to call my own"

Dear Bukky,

I’ll be 28 years of age this August.

It’s so sad to say that I'm not in any relationship with a lady. I tried so much to get into one but nothing just seems to be coming my way.

I guess maybe it’s because of my mindset. I’m the kind of guy who does not want to have a girlfriend just for having sake. I’d really love to meet the bone of my bone…

To be sincere it hurts me so much to be alone. I’m just too lonely and I envy some of the young guys around me talking about their girlfriends.__________________

What should I do?

Hi, reader

Patience is all it takes. Because you are not seeking something fleeting or temporary, you have to be more patient than the random who just leaps into any relationship without much consideration, or without thinking it through.

You also need to be sure you are ready – emotionally, mentally, and financially - for the kind of serious relationship you crave so much.

What does your appearance tell ladies about you? You manner of conversation with the opposite sex, your grooming and all that… what does it speak of?

Does it make you a viable option or does it make you look unprepared? If you were a lady, would you go out or commit to a guy like you?

If your honest answer to that is positive, then, for sure, you’re good to go.

One more thing, you should consider going out more, getting more involved with few causes and generally just positioning yourself for a chance at love.

Love can locate whether you do these or not, but the chance just increases when you go out and get to meet people._________________

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